Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Ahh bless your mum :) Arley liked to gum but hes a bit of a lazy gummer until he got teeth :) by the sounds of it you loved gumming food :)
Oh no :( well surely they can see this is completely unfair on you?? I feel bad for you and your mum having to make plans, they shouldve thought about this and talked it through with you well in advance to see if they could find alternatives that you were comfortable with. OMG Im a bit of a stress head as I hate unfairness and ignorance I'dve marched up there and had strong words to be fair, so god help the education where my boys end up going he he he! Try not to stress or worry ( i know thats probably nor gonna change how you feel) but what you need to be thinking really is that you are not in the wrong here. You have been put in a situation that you nor your mum are comfortable with and knowing you have ASD I really feel that they have been ignorant to your needs and your mums rules that she does to keep you safe. So try not to feel like you are doing anything wrong if anything they should be apologising. So dont stress over your poker face, this isnt your fault. Its good lying doesnt come naturally, and its awful the fact that the education have put you in this situation. So instead of trying really hard to look serious about the plan, i think you should do something you really really like instead! :) I still cannot take in theyve left you in this situation, so so ignorant of them, im so cross that people are so tunnel visioned. :/ dont you worry yourself with it though find something you really like doing and do that for a bit, as worrying wont change anything and wont help you either :)