Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Mum came by and just read over my shoulder, she started laughing and said that I didn't need teeth to take out biscuits and that I'd gummed some plain digestive biscuits to death before I went fully on solids. xD
New problem has sadly risen, some teacher at school in charge of extended project (basically, you do a whole unit of work based on what you want and you're responsible for it all, I'm doing animation and making an actual animation at the end) decided to send us on a 'trip' to a university library that specialises in teaching. Normally I wouldn't mind, but we'd be leaving school about 1pm and arriving back at 6.30pm to be dismissed from a station I've never heard of. Apparently the local library isn't good enough for those of us doing artefacts (artistic stuff, not massive essays about 20 pages long) even though theres nothing relating to my topic at this uni place.
Luckily come up with an alternative plan, mum isn't happy about me being out that late for something 'useless' anyway so she plans on writing me a note claiming I must keep an eye on Amelia. I just hate the fact that I have to stress, worry and practice my 'poker face' all week just to hand over the note. They know I don't like going anywhere new and especially that I hate doing things that break my routine. Doesn't help lying doesn't come to me naturally either so I do genuinely have to practise in a mirror.