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Communication problems

Marjorie195

How do we ask a question of the moderators, privately?

I was recently critisised for something I posted, which I thought was perfectly reasonable, showing understanding, sympathy and making a suggestion for future action. I asked for an explanation of where I had gone wrong, via feedback. I have received no reply.

According to the NAS website, autism "affects how a person communicates".

If there is doubt about the content of a post, then perhaps a moderator should not just critisise the one who posts, but explain to/remind the recipient that sometimes the message may not be worded in the most tactful way, by NT standards. The intention of the post, might be kinder than it appears at first reading.

In other words, perhaps NT users need reminding that autistic users don't always communicate as well as NT people. We are sometimes misunderstood.

  • Thanks sock, I thought that you had also put things right before the intervention.

    But I still say, why do they not point out to NT users that communication is a major issue we have, and they need to be a little understanding of that.

    I also think that many of the AS users have had some horrendous experiences in life, and can be upset when they see others heading into the same difficulties.

    I have said the wrong thing so many times in life and been alienated because of it, that I now rehash everything I say in my head after the event, looking for scope for misinterpretation. If I find any, then I take on the blame for things going wrong, and don't fight back when I should. I make excuses for other peoples behaviour and end up being bullied. I am trying to be more assertive and say if someone is unpleasant to me, then I should avoid them. I just want to live in peace with people and put "yesterday" behind me.

    I have noted the email address, I will try another message and then put this episode behind me. Thank you

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    Marjorie,

    You didn't say anything wrong, the moderators made a mistake in naming you in my opinion and I let them know that through the 'Feedback to NAS' form.

    There is a mailbox at community.manager@nas.org.uk where you should be able to get a response to your question.

    I'm sorry for the bother that you have been caused - I was short tempered and made some harsh remarks and you were the innocent bystander. :-)

  • Thanks Azalea, you may well be right. I just don't want to upset anyone, and hoped they might explain what they meant. I have been told in the past that I speak without putting my brain into gear. I usually understand so long after the event, that it is too late to explain what I really meant.