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finding half term difficult please help

rach06

My son age 10 is into his xbox mine craft and hole world revolves round that when he does come out from it he's so mouthy and has to have last say . He don't socialise anyway at school ect and is v isolated most time walking on egg shells with him anyway all I keep getting is I'm board u silly cow shut ur mouth when I surest things to do then bk on xbox he goes he don't want to do anything anymore even hospital appointments help 

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    Hi,

    I'm really sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your son. Children on the spectrum can be much more difficult to manage than many other children and it sounds like you need some extra help in getting back on top of the situation. Normal parenting skills sometimes don't work and it may be that you could benefit from some extra training in positive parenting and managing and controlling him. I believe that NAS may be able to point you in the direction of courses for parents so that you know more about how his mind works and how to manage a child with autism.

    Is there a NAS parents group in your area? What services are you dealing with (camhs? social services? health visitors?)

    Are you consistent in giving him messages? Do you only say NO when you really mean it and are prepared to back up your decision with some action? Do you actively encourage him to do the right thing and follow then consistently through with rewards when he does something good? As a parent I found that my children could argue until the cows come home and I would often crumble and not follow through. If I were doing it all again I would be much more careful about thinking things through before saying Yes or No and then be much more determined to stick to my decision. Do you have clear rules in the house about some things that he has to do? If you have one or two rules and hold the line on those you may find that you can slowly introduce more control.

    Hope this helps!

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi,

    I'm really sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your son. Children on the spectrum can be much more difficult to manage than many other children and it sounds like you need some extra help in getting back on top of the situation. Normal parenting skills sometimes don't work and it may be that you could benefit from some extra training in positive parenting and managing and controlling him. I believe that NAS may be able to point you in the direction of courses for parents so that you know more about how his mind works and how to manage a child with autism.

    Is there a NAS parents group in your area? What services are you dealing with (camhs? social services? health visitors?)

    Are you consistent in giving him messages? Do you only say NO when you really mean it and are prepared to back up your decision with some action? Do you actively encourage him to do the right thing and follow then consistently through with rewards when he does something good? As a parent I found that my children could argue until the cows come home and I would often crumble and not follow through. If I were doing it all again I would be much more careful about thinking things through before saying Yes or No and then be much more determined to stick to my decision. Do you have clear rules in the house about some things that he has to do? If you have one or two rules and hold the line on those you may find that you can slowly introduce more control.

    Hope this helps!

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