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Hi Dr3am3r, I have to admit to lying frequently in my teens. I wanted my own way. Rules to me were guidelines to be broken if I had a reason. Eg if I wanted to go to the library in school hours, I went and made up an excuse, such as returning books for a sick relative, if caught. Thus, to me, it was not wrong. You could try just accepting what he says, and let him suffer the consequences, eg no pack up, if he lies about making it, or no clean clothes if he misses the wash. We can do too much for our children.

Is your son punishing his brother for percieved misconduct? If so, he may see it as good rather than bad. Or telling you what has been done to him, maybe, which may justify it in his eyes?  I

 think it can be  a way of telling you what was happening, without telling tales, which is taboo among children, and he might have been hurt again for reporting an earlier issue.

Hi Dr3am3r, I have to admit to lying frequently in my teens. I wanted my own way. Rules to me were guidelines to be broken if I had a reason. Eg if I wanted to go to the library in school hours, I went and made up an excuse, such as returning books for a sick relative, if caught. Thus, to me, it was not wrong. You could try just accepting what he says, and let him suffer the consequences, eg no pack up, if he lies about making it, or no clean clothes if he misses the wash. We can do too much for our children.

Is your son punishing his brother for percieved misconduct? If so, he may see it as good rather than bad. Or telling you what has been done to him, maybe, which may justify it in his eyes?  I

 think it can be  a way of telling you what was happening, without telling tales, which is taboo among children, and he might have been hurt again for reporting an earlier issue.