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contact suggestion for a autistic 2 year old

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Dear Forum,

My 2 1/2 has just been diagnosed with autism. She goes to her dad's every saturday for 8 hours , as per court order. But she has never coped well with it- returning home with bad tantrums, aggressive behaviour and then finally withdrawing into self. She cannot communicate at all, apart from gestures. So far, my concerns have been ignored as just the behaviour of a normal 2 year old, and a over-possessive mother. But now with the diagnosis, we atleast have a reason for her behaviour.

Please note  I dont want to stop contact-just trying to reduce the duration.

Please advice what I should do?  How should I approach court?

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  • Atypical said:

    Have to disagree on the diagnosis issue. My understanding is that some kids can be diagnosed that early.  And if they already have issues, better that they are. Sure, keep an open mind that other factors might be involved, but I don't think you need more worry about that right now.

    Agree though, just tell the court the pattern you have seen. Though is there any chance to talk to her dad first, even if through an intermediary? It might to be better for her to change what he is doing during the visit rather than change the time spent with him?  I'm thinking he might be taking her out visiting places that might be considered fun for kids, and maybe needs to choose calmer, quieter locations.

     

    Thanks ...No idea where he take her..there is no communication between us ,and he doesnt mention anything at all via the contact book.

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  • Atypical said:

    Have to disagree on the diagnosis issue. My understanding is that some kids can be diagnosed that early.  And if they already have issues, better that they are. Sure, keep an open mind that other factors might be involved, but I don't think you need more worry about that right now.

    Agree though, just tell the court the pattern you have seen. Though is there any chance to talk to her dad first, even if through an intermediary? It might to be better for her to change what he is doing during the visit rather than change the time spent with him?  I'm thinking he might be taking her out visiting places that might be considered fun for kids, and maybe needs to choose calmer, quieter locations.

     

    Thanks ...No idea where he take her..there is no communication between us ,and he doesnt mention anything at all via the contact book.

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