Dreams or Reality? Tell us your hopes and dreams.....

Hi,

Those that know me, will be aware that I've not long had my diagnosis and overall so far, it’s been a positive experience.

Since then, so much has fallen into place for me, the job difficulties, the misunderstandings, the depression and perpetual feeling of not being able to cope with the most basic of lifes difficulties.

This past year has been both a revelation and a relief of sorts, but when faced with such knowledge, do we really have the power to change things for the better?

I'm late diagnosed and desperate to make the second half of my life a different experience.

By different, I don't mean in my personality, but by the quality of my life and by reducing my vulnerability. I’ve always been generous and I believe kind to other souls, but is that a fundamental part of my vulnerability? 

As New Years Eve is upon us, I have to ask, is this a wishful whim perpetuated by the tradition of new starts or is it a realistic prospect that the quality of life could change with the knowledge I’ve now gleaned?

Is learning to feel at ease with the level of depression or anxiety you experience delusional rather than well-adjusted; as has been suggested in earlier posts, or is acceptance of ones condition and associated difficulties the way to move toward greater Happiness & Well-being?

As we move forward from 60 years of identification, indicators, analysis, co-morbid conditions and biological factor research, are we really on the verge of moving into a new era of Autism where Happiness and Well-being is not only the primary focus, but an achievable goal?

Tell us your positive experiences and share your hopes for the future

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    So far, my experience has been positive. There have been a few stumbles along the way but overall I'm much happier and less stressed now than I was a year ago.

    One of my resolutions is to stay in charge of my Asperger's rather than let it rule my life. There was a discussion earlier in the year that evolved into a question of whether you could treat your ASD like a pet dog.

    community.autism.org.uk/.../does-anyone-want-chat

    Azalea reminded us further down that thread of the youtube dog called Fenton! I want to keep my ASD under control and have an Ashleigh rather than a Fenton!

    In that vein of trying to put the ASD in its place, I bought a copy of en.wikipedia.org/.../Surely_You're_Joking,_Mr._Feynman! in an oxfam shop the other day. I bought it because it looked like a light hearted collection of stories about Mr F. who was an eminent physicist. It turns out that he was well down the spectrum and, rather than taking my mind of the ASD as I had hoped when I bought the book, it has reminded me that you can be very successful indeed in spite of the condition.

    I'm going to keep looking to see if I can see more links between diet and my mood. I had a black dog of a meltdown on Xmas Eve and wonder if it had anything to do with the quantity of chocolate I had eaten that day! I was able to climb out of the slough of despond later the next day but it was not fun while it lasted.

    I'm going to try and learn more about things like Emotional Intelligence so I am working my way through Daniel Goleman's "Working With Emotional Intelligence"

    www.amazon.co.uk/.../0747543844

    The year will throw up lots of unexpected events so I don't expect my plans to turn out too reliably.

    Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year to everyone on the forum!