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Sez,

You can keep posting here as long as you like and we don't charge anything! I have found the forum to be really useful for exchanging ideas about different ways to think about things.

Private therapists can be useful, as I found for a short spell, but they probably won't have a very focused approach in actually helping you confront and challenge your ideas and thought processes.

You are probably more normal than you think. It is entirely normal to want to start a family. I wondered if part of your desire to be alone in your bedroom was a natural response to being pregnant. Do you think that part of this is "nesting"? i.e. spending more time on making sure that the babies have a good home to come into and less time on socialising/finding a mate. I don't think that this is the whole story by any means but I suspect there may be an element of that going on at the moment.

I'm going to assume that you really do have an ASD condition in spite of the absence of a formal diagnosis. A lot of what you do sounds very typical for someone with an ASD. However, I am not a doctor so there is a risk that I might not understand you correctly.

Your reluctance to stand up and demand a diagnosis is understandable. It is hard work and often completely unrewarding to keep battling when you get nothing in return. ASD people often divide into two camps at this point. Some people take on the system and obsessively fight every inch of the way. Other people take an opposite course and withdraw from the struggle completely and end up as hermits. Neither course is ideal and both courses end up with damage to the individual through exhaustion of obsession or through not getting the assistance that they really do need. I really feel afraid that you will fall into the latter group and that you and your babies will not get the help you really do need. You are right in saying that the nhs has enough to do but they really do want to deal with cases like yours where a correct diagnosis and a sensible course of treatment can save an enormous amount of time and trouble and expense in the longer term.

Sez,

You can keep posting here as long as you like and we don't charge anything! I have found the forum to be really useful for exchanging ideas about different ways to think about things.

Private therapists can be useful, as I found for a short spell, but they probably won't have a very focused approach in actually helping you confront and challenge your ideas and thought processes.

You are probably more normal than you think. It is entirely normal to want to start a family. I wondered if part of your desire to be alone in your bedroom was a natural response to being pregnant. Do you think that part of this is "nesting"? i.e. spending more time on making sure that the babies have a good home to come into and less time on socialising/finding a mate. I don't think that this is the whole story by any means but I suspect there may be an element of that going on at the moment.

I'm going to assume that you really do have an ASD condition in spite of the absence of a formal diagnosis. A lot of what you do sounds very typical for someone with an ASD. However, I am not a doctor so there is a risk that I might not understand you correctly.

Your reluctance to stand up and demand a diagnosis is understandable. It is hard work and often completely unrewarding to keep battling when you get nothing in return. ASD people often divide into two camps at this point. Some people take on the system and obsessively fight every inch of the way. Other people take an opposite course and withdraw from the struggle completely and end up as hermits. Neither course is ideal and both courses end up with damage to the individual through exhaustion of obsession or through not getting the assistance that they really do need. I really feel afraid that you will fall into the latter group and that you and your babies will not get the help you really do need. You are right in saying that the nhs has enough to do but they really do want to deal with cases like yours where a correct diagnosis and a sensible course of treatment can save an enormous amount of time and trouble and expense in the longer term.