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Finding myself

Rhino711

Hi, I’ve thought that I’m autistic for a few years now but haven’t looked into getting a formal diagnosis. I have a son who is diagnosed and another son waiting for a diagnosis. I have struggled my whole life with anxiety and depression and was always told I was just a half glass empty kind of person. My marriage has recently ended and my wife says that part of the reason is my inability to make changes and not supporting her emotionally. I still don’t understand what she means by this because my understanding of supporting her emotionally I thought I was doing. Is getting a diagnosis as an adult realistically going to change anything for me or should I operate under the pretence that I am? (all my colleagues think I am, friends, my counsellor and all tests I’ve done indicate I’m likely to be autistic)

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  • Welcome to the community.

    Many of us self-identify, for a variety of reasons. One of the commonest is the length of time it can take to obtain an NHS diagnosis and the cost of a private one. I went the private route because it's almost impossible to get an NHS diagnosis where I live and I couldn't cope with imposter syndrome. What it did for me was to help me come to terms with past failures that I'd put down to personal inadequacies. Others find diagnosis unsettling or even difficult to cope with. It's all a matter of what you feel is best for you.

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  • Welcome to the community.

    Many of us self-identify, for a variety of reasons. One of the commonest is the length of time it can take to obtain an NHS diagnosis and the cost of a private one. I went the private route because it's almost impossible to get an NHS diagnosis where I live and I couldn't cope with imposter syndrome. What it did for me was to help me come to terms with past failures that I'd put down to personal inadequacies. Others find diagnosis unsettling or even difficult to cope with. It's all a matter of what you feel is best for you.

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