Looking for reassurance

I’ve figured out how to move Facebook to a hidden app that needs a passcode so I won’t be tempted to check it all the time. I don’t think I’m ready to fully make the cut yet! 

You’re right, it’s just a difference of opinion, not a personal thing. And we are grown ups! 

I understand you huni, I've just been diagnosed autistic and I have adhd. Please someone correct me if im wrong, but is impulsity an adhd thing or an autistic thing,  as im thinking that maybe your adhd made you act impulse like it does with me. I've been in your position plenty of times,  it sucks. Once I get the green light, I'll post a reply I just want to make sure I don't give you false information 

That’s the trouble with many groups on Facebook – people don’t want reality, just their personal version of it, and when they’re challenged, they can get very upset that someone else doesn’t share their perspective. But really, I don't think it's fair that you have to feel embarrassed about facing the person at work you disagreed with on Facebook. You are entitled to your opinions as much as she and if she has any maturity should recognize that and just put it down to a difference if opinion!

Actually, I think there are a lot that do want/like to be corrected.  Sadly, they mostly don't inhabit social media, being too busy being scientists or researchers or doing some other useful thing!    Oh!  And being fabulously autistic as well.

That’s exactly how I feel, I just want to hide away because I’ve inadvertently set off an argument and that really wasn’t my intention. Thanks for being so nice about it. Maybe I need to follow your lead and cut out social media. And I probably need to stop correcting people because nobody likes it! 

This is familiar territory.  Anyone who has studied at a higher level knows that one has to support the argument with evidence.  References are king!  However, social media is anything but social, and many like provocation for its own sake.  Add in autism and the familiar refrain of 'just ignore it,' which is often impossible for us to do, and we have yet another reason to spiral into self-doubt and withdraw from everything!

I'm a slow (oh so very slow) learner, and I am about to pull the plug on 'faceache' well maybe tomorrow (I am a world-leading procrastinator), as it does me no good mentally.  Until I do I now try to not get involved in politics, even though the issues raised are so important.

Good luck and be safe out there; realising you are the better person is enough, I think.

I agree, I hide some people so I don’t have to see their posts, sometimes I think I should leave Facebook due to the conversations I end up in, but now I just don’t add any comments, trying to preserve my mental health. 

I'm newly diagnosed ASD, although self-diagnosed decades ago.  I figured out long ago that the realm of social media that includes Facebook,  Instagram,  X, etc. are toxic for me.  They may be ok for some, but when I deleted everything,  it was a HUGE relief to no longer be attached to them.  We all have been sucked in to them, and it was ok for a while, but eventually once we overuse them -which is usually always - it discretely adds unnecessary stress. My breaking point was during a meltdown and I had posted wildly unhinged things that I don't even remember doing. I deleted everything I was on and it was the best thing I've done in that regard. Now I stick with specific discussions like this,  with like-minded people and avoid anything that involves argument invoking environments.  And yes, Mr. or Mrs. Moderator, I'm a real person and it's my first reply, and thank you for accepting me (hopefully)   

I guess I hadn’t considered that I may also be breaking the rules by replying to the post, i only replied because the data was wrong (not facts from the news). I am cross with myself because I know better than to get into things like this but I genuinely just wanted to correct the information, I wasn’t trying to start a fight or even get into a debate. I would have appreciated being corrected if I had posted something that was incorrect but I forget that some people don’t take it that way and think I’m being a jerk. Thanks for the advice, no more mud for me 

Thank you, that’s really kind of you to reply 

kkayy83 said:

I don’t feel like there’s anything I can say that’s not going to make it worse

Since you understand that you have broken the rules about posting political opinions then I think if I were in your shoes I would delete my social media profile. If you have no history of this then I could always say the account was compromised or a similar lie to save my job.

kkayy83 said:

I just wanted to let her know that some of the stuff wasn’t true

This is a real can of worms. Many things you may think are true may just be true from your perspective unless they are hard facts (eg numbers reported by the government) but when you lift those stones you start to realise that the "facts" are often information that is reported from a particular perspective so is not as hard and fast a you may have thought.

It is best to steer clear of any arguments, even when you are sure you are right. The people on the other end of the argument may enjoy the process of arguing far beyond the truth so it helps to recall the old saying "never wrestle with a pig. Both of you will get dirty and the pig enjoys it".

I have found that with some people on this site - now I just ignore their attempts to lure me into the mud and knowing that this frustrates them is enough for me.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time, just difficult when people mistake desire for accuracy as a reason to be nasty to someone. Especially hard when people aren't very caring in a caring profession. I hope you managed to get on with your work and hopefully they didn't bring it up. 

Perhaps I think there is a mute function so you don't have to see that person's offensive posts? To save any more discomfort? I haven't been on in a year, so can't remember what they call it, but I think it's an option! And then hopefully it will calm down at work if you don't mention it at all?

Best of luck.