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Help for 26yr old with ASD

Platespinner

Hi, my daughter comes across as being quiet, but able to cope. However, at home, I still have to call her into the bathroom and supervise washing and cleaning teeth ; we still get dirty undies left on the bedroom floor and she will try to survive on inadequate food - poppadoms for breakfast for example, unless we are on her case the whole time.  At present, she lives at home and has PIP but we're obviously thinking of the future. She wouldn't be happy in many supported settings but I feel she won't cope unless we can radically improve her life skills.

Does anyone have any ideas on how we can work on this? I have tried tick lists and incentives - but at 26, she doesn't seem to respond to these.

We have other issues : choosing appropriate clothing ; panicking if we point out the timetable of jobs as she won't have time to continue reading on her laptop...etc, but would love to hear any views on the first one first!

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  • I'm the same age and on the spectrum, but I think we're in different areas of the spectrum here.  I know with me and eating I only stick to 'safe' foods, which is why it's poppadoms for breakfast.  But, I can imagine changing that routine would be pretty difficult.  I'm still struggling with needing to eat different foods because I know living on tomato soup and potatoes isn't going to help me much.

    The problem is if the levels of anxiety are high there will probably be problems with everything.  Everything will have a coping mechanism and al lthese things are the way they are because that's they way she has found to cope with life.

    It's great you are being supportive and want to help, but I don't know what professional help you have sought after.  I had CBT once, even though it was for only a few weeks it helped with getting me able to leave the house when my OCD got really bad.  I think she would benefit from some psychiatric support from someone who understands autism, which I've discovered isn't very easy to come across these days  :/

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  • I'm the same age and on the spectrum, but I think we're in different areas of the spectrum here.  I know with me and eating I only stick to 'safe' foods, which is why it's poppadoms for breakfast.  But, I can imagine changing that routine would be pretty difficult.  I'm still struggling with needing to eat different foods because I know living on tomato soup and potatoes isn't going to help me much.

    The problem is if the levels of anxiety are high there will probably be problems with everything.  Everything will have a coping mechanism and al lthese things are the way they are because that's they way she has found to cope with life.

    It's great you are being supportive and want to help, but I don't know what professional help you have sought after.  I had CBT once, even though it was for only a few weeks it helped with getting me able to leave the house when my OCD got really bad.  I think she would benefit from some psychiatric support from someone who understands autism, which I've discovered isn't very easy to come across these days  :/

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