Good TV programmes to relax with

  1. Having thought I had watched all the comedy, mainly old stuff on I Player I found the second series of Austin which I am halfway through. Watching 'comfy' comedy or a good film that is not fast paced drama/action with a good ending is one of the few ways I find I can relax and chill out. Does anyone have any recommendations? I am thinking either on I player or TV.
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  • I was considering putting up a discussion post about "Ann Droid" (the BBC TV series) earlier today and my search on the site has suggested your thread as  I agree Austin is great, The Detectorists, Ludwig and Small Prophets - likely stuff you've already been thro' but I thought that I'd mention them.  

    Happy viewing!

    Phased

  • I gave Ann Droid a go and quite enjoyed it. It took me a couple of episodes to get into it but once I got used to the concept it was very enjoyable.

  • I agree  , it will be interesting to see where they take it if there is a second series!
    What really stood out to me about Ann Droid is how much the robot character feels like an accidental metaphor for the autistic experience. Watching a character try to navigate the world by logically analyzing social rules, copying behaviors to fit in, and managing literal interpretations of language feels very familiar. And I admit I found that a little unsettling.
    Underneath all that it's a really sharp social commentary about how growing old has become in our society.  Massive gaps in social support and the way techno fixes are being looked to to patch over an overstretched social care.  Also how family and informal social care networks are overstretched too for supporting their loved ones.
    I am maybe overdoing my analysis, but I'd suggest that it manages to be a profound, dark critique of modern social isolation whilst still managing to maintain its warmth as a light comedy.
    And in my opinion less "cringemaking" than some of Dianne Morgan's other work...
  • yes it is complicated  

    shifting an "unknown unknown" into being a "known unknown" and then it becoming "known" is hard.  In my personal case, perhaps for others, maybe in respect of the "double empathy problem" the struggle is about pretty profound misconceptions.  Overturning the majority conception - even tho' it may be wrong - is something humanity as a whole seems to not find easy, so both you and I deserve to go easy on ourselves about it I think!

    You make some great points about the actor thing.

    I watched Shakespeare's "twelfth night" this summer - in it a woman character pretends to be a man.  Initially, because of social restrictions, when it was performed it would have been a man pretending to be a woman pretending to be a man!  Not so these days, women are allowed (well by a lot of human society anyway - maybe not enough yet...) - better equality perhaps.  Another title for the play is "whatever you like" - maybe if there was true equality people would be able to act in whatever way they liked - personally I would exclude serial killers from that right too - hehe maybe I'm just not liberal enough - but one draws a line somewhere!

    Your comment about by doing enough research a good actor may be able to play a broad range of characters might be a metaphor for the amount of effort an autistic person has to put into masking.

  • Yes I think that does make sense. Still blows my mind though. The brain is so complicated.

    There are definitely times that a role needs to be played by a particular actor. If race is key to the role e.g. a film about slavery, then yes it should be played by an actor of that race. If it were a condition like downs syndrome then yes it makes sense the actor also had the condition as that is visual. I don't think it's a bad thing an autistic actor playing an autistic character, I just don't think it's essential. I also think that could cause a big problem with type casting and could also risk autistic actors only being hired for autistic characters. The same argument might be used against them that they don't have lived experience of being neurotypical. I think if you're a good actor then you're a good actor and as long as you've done your research you should be able to play a broad range of characters.

  • if the brain can attempt to fill those gaps with a mask, why can't it just do it
    because it isn't "built" to is the answer to that one as far as I understand it - the "wiring" to those parts of the autistic brain just isn't anywhere as developed as it is in a neurotypical brain - like trying to get 100 cars down a small road instead of a motorway. The "mask" is made in another part of the autistic brain and uses different and less effective neural "roads"- the neurotypical brain handles the 100 cars with ease - and doesn't even realise that it is doing so! (Apologies if that metaphor doesn't translate well, basically it's manual processing vs automatic processing).
    On a topic and a situation where the social "rules" are less fluid and complex - maybe like a small (and here's the important word used) professional meeting at work then the road is wide enough for the variables of the task.
    No wonder why it blows autistic minds  (and to be fair in my experience it blows neurotypical minds that autistic people can't too) that "double empathy problem":-)
    I get what you mean w/r/to people playing the roles - certainly it not a great idea for the safety of other actors (or the film studio risk assessment and insurance costs!) for a serial killer to play one in a movie. But how about the colour of one's skin or ethnicity? These are biologically determined (OK maybe there is a serial killer gene out there but I still agree it's not a great idea) There are lots of great actors who can do that job so I figure why argue about it? Likewise maybe autistic actors...where lived experience and personal insight can assist them in their acting portrayal. And maybe also be a move towards equality.
    Thanks, I agree an interesting conversation - much appreciated - if i am a bit slow in responding further it's not that I'm being rude please - just I have to go to bed now!
    All the best for now.
  • No I find it an interesting conversation. I find it fascinating that so many of us can mask to the degree we do. Masking isn't perfect by any means but isn't it weird that we don't have natural social skills in many ways, at least typically, but our brain manages to fill in at least some of the gaps. That comes at a great cost to us I know and masking doesn't necessarily give us the social skills neurotypical people have but it makes me wonder, if the brain can attempt to fill those gaps with a mask, why can't it just do it. Like I struggle with socialising but put me in a small professional meeting at work and I seem to have no issue communicating appropriately. How does that work? Blows my mind a little.

    Yes I have made this argument before when autism portrayals have been debated. There has to be something that makes it interesting. Whether that be by it being funny, or emotional (in cases where the character is bullied etc) or because there is high drama. This might mean some of the traits are over exaggerated but they do that for many characters, not just autistic ones. The other thing I don't understand with people's criticism of autistic characters is they think they should only be played by autistic actors. Whilst I think it's important the actor has some understanding of autism to play the role, that is the entire point of acting. You wouldn't say that it had to be a gay person that played a gay character and you definitely wouldn't say you need a serial killer to play a serial killer so why does an autistic character need to be played by an autistic actor.

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  • No I find it an interesting conversation. I find it fascinating that so many of us can mask to the degree we do. Masking isn't perfect by any means but isn't it weird that we don't have natural social skills in many ways, at least typically, but our brain manages to fill in at least some of the gaps. That comes at a great cost to us I know and masking doesn't necessarily give us the social skills neurotypical people have but it makes me wonder, if the brain can attempt to fill those gaps with a mask, why can't it just do it. Like I struggle with socialising but put me in a small professional meeting at work and I seem to have no issue communicating appropriately. How does that work? Blows my mind a little.

    Yes I have made this argument before when autism portrayals have been debated. There has to be something that makes it interesting. Whether that be by it being funny, or emotional (in cases where the character is bullied etc) or because there is high drama. This might mean some of the traits are over exaggerated but they do that for many characters, not just autistic ones. The other thing I don't understand with people's criticism of autistic characters is they think they should only be played by autistic actors. Whilst I think it's important the actor has some understanding of autism to play the role, that is the entire point of acting. You wouldn't say that it had to be a gay person that played a gay character and you definitely wouldn't say you need a serial killer to play a serial killer so why does an autistic character need to be played by an autistic actor.

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  • yes it is complicated  

    shifting an "unknown unknown" into being a "known unknown" and then it becoming "known" is hard.  In my personal case, perhaps for others, maybe in respect of the "double empathy problem" the struggle is about pretty profound misconceptions.  Overturning the majority conception - even tho' it may be wrong - is something humanity as a whole seems to not find easy, so both you and I deserve to go easy on ourselves about it I think!

    You make some great points about the actor thing.

    I watched Shakespeare's "twelfth night" this summer - in it a woman character pretends to be a man.  Initially, because of social restrictions, when it was performed it would have been a man pretending to be a woman pretending to be a man!  Not so these days, women are allowed (well by a lot of human society anyway - maybe not enough yet...) - better equality perhaps.  Another title for the play is "whatever you like" - maybe if there was true equality people would be able to act in whatever way they liked - personally I would exclude serial killers from that right too - hehe maybe I'm just not liberal enough - but one draws a line somewhere!

    Your comment about by doing enough research a good actor may be able to play a broad range of characters might be a metaphor for the amount of effort an autistic person has to put into masking.

  • Yes I think that does make sense. Still blows my mind though. The brain is so complicated.

    There are definitely times that a role needs to be played by a particular actor. If race is key to the role e.g. a film about slavery, then yes it should be played by an actor of that race. If it were a condition like downs syndrome then yes it makes sense the actor also had the condition as that is visual. I don't think it's a bad thing an autistic actor playing an autistic character, I just don't think it's essential. I also think that could cause a big problem with type casting and could also risk autistic actors only being hired for autistic characters. The same argument might be used against them that they don't have lived experience of being neurotypical. I think if you're a good actor then you're a good actor and as long as you've done your research you should be able to play a broad range of characters.

  • if the brain can attempt to fill those gaps with a mask, why can't it just do it
    because it isn't "built" to is the answer to that one as far as I understand it - the "wiring" to those parts of the autistic brain just isn't anywhere as developed as it is in a neurotypical brain - like trying to get 100 cars down a small road instead of a motorway. The "mask" is made in another part of the autistic brain and uses different and less effective neural "roads"- the neurotypical brain handles the 100 cars with ease - and doesn't even realise that it is doing so! (Apologies if that metaphor doesn't translate well, basically it's manual processing vs automatic processing).
    On a topic and a situation where the social "rules" are less fluid and complex - maybe like a small (and here's the important word used) professional meeting at work then the road is wide enough for the variables of the task.
    No wonder why it blows autistic minds  (and to be fair in my experience it blows neurotypical minds that autistic people can't too) that "double empathy problem":-)
    I get what you mean w/r/to people playing the roles - certainly it not a great idea for the safety of other actors (or the film studio risk assessment and insurance costs!) for a serial killer to play one in a movie. But how about the colour of one's skin or ethnicity? These are biologically determined (OK maybe there is a serial killer gene out there but I still agree it's not a great idea) There are lots of great actors who can do that job so I figure why argue about it? Likewise maybe autistic actors...where lived experience and personal insight can assist them in their acting portrayal. And maybe also be a move towards equality.
    Thanks, I agree an interesting conversation - much appreciated - if i am a bit slow in responding further it's not that I'm being rude please - just I have to go to bed now!
    All the best for now.