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Having niche interests is hard

Jamesmac

So, I've always found it hard to connect to many people over the course of my life because I find I have no common interests with them. They always talk about what's mainstream and what everyone else is doing, but then I try to talk about stuff I'm interested in - niche, almost obscure stuff as far as the mainstream goes, and nobody really cares.

It's kinda disheartening in a way. It doesn't really help that I often find whatever's mainstream to be kinda dumb and mindless.

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  • I'm really niche, nobody here has replied to my previous post.  Just as I expected.  Full moon with face

  • in reply to Robert124

    I read your post but didn’t understand the subject so didn’t reply. Probably others felt the same? People seem to think nicheness is a positive but in reality it is often a barrier, among autistic people as well as when talking to neurotypicals. 

  • in reply to Alice-nice-Alice

    Easiest explanation is, look it up on Wikipedia. 

  • in reply to Robert124

    Having special interests is like entering pool at the deep end: cool, if you can dive and swim well. But does person you talk to can too? From my personal experience, if I start my gardening conversation with someone by bringing up organic chemistry conversion, then whoever I make to dive in at the deep end with me will not understand or misunderstand what I wanted to share, because it can be out of context. I'd try to find out first if they have a garden; if they grow anything or just prefer grass; if they do, I'll ask what, and if they use any fertilisers; if those are organic or commercial, etc.

    So if I was talking about geometry to someone I knew knows what geometry is, I'd try to put it as a statement like 'I've just learned recently such a cool fact, that if a triangle is fitted within a semi-circle, one of its angles will be always 90°. It is [x] and was discovered by [a]...' 

    Yes, it's a lot of fluff and takes time and effort, but some complex things can be explained fairly easily.

    Yes, I had geometry at school and loved it, but never had chance to use it once I finished school, which was a while ago.

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  • in reply to Robert124

    Having special interests is like entering pool at the deep end: cool, if you can dive and swim well. But does person you talk to can too? From my personal experience, if I start my gardening conversation with someone by bringing up organic chemistry conversion, then whoever I make to dive in at the deep end with me will not understand or misunderstand what I wanted to share, because it can be out of context. I'd try to find out first if they have a garden; if they grow anything or just prefer grass; if they do, I'll ask what, and if they use any fertilisers; if those are organic or commercial, etc.

    So if I was talking about geometry to someone I knew knows what geometry is, I'd try to put it as a statement like 'I've just learned recently such a cool fact, that if a triangle is fitted within a semi-circle, one of its angles will be always 90°. It is [x] and was discovered by [a]...' 

    Yes, it's a lot of fluff and takes time and effort, but some complex things can be explained fairly easily.

    Yes, I had geometry at school and loved it, but never had chance to use it once I finished school, which was a while ago.

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