I think you were right to break up with him because the relationship isn't right for you, which is fine. I can understand why you want to know if he was being honest. Not having enough brain space to remember things people like is normal, but when you said that I was like 'oh sh't' because that's a serious thing and I would remember things like that myself. For example I am currently talking to a girl for a few days and I am tired today, but I like her, so I am making myself message her at a reasonable rate, I go over board to help and support people I care about. I can see why it felt to you like he doesn't care that much about you.
Another thing is if I am in a shop around people I just have the brain space to get what I need, thinking about someone else is an extra pressure, so that's another aspect which you don't have to deal with as a NT person. Like I was looking for electrolytes on Tuesday for the first time and I had to spend 5 minutes standing there stimming to find what I wanted, if I wasn't stimming I would have lost it and just left the shop. I ending I think his autism would make things more challenging for him, but if he focused on it more he could have made the changes you needed in the relationship.
Another note is this sort of break down is something I worry about when I get into a relationship and how I can manage my autism with the other person.
I think you were right to break up with him because the relationship isn't right for you, which is fine. I can understand why you want to know if he was being honest. Not having enough brain space to remember things people like is normal, but when you said that I was like 'oh sh't' because that's a serious thing and I would remember things like that myself. For example I am currently talking to a girl for a few days and I am tired today, but I like her, so I am making myself message her at a reasonable rate, I go over board to help and support people I care about. I can see why it felt to you like he doesn't care that much about you.
Another thing is if I am in a shop around people I just have the brain space to get what I need, thinking about someone else is an extra pressure, so that's another aspect which you don't have to deal with as a NT person. Like I was looking for electrolytes on Tuesday for the first time and I had to spend 5 minutes standing there stimming to find what I wanted, if I wasn't stimming I would have lost it and just left the shop. I ending I think his autism would make things more challenging for him, but if he focused on it more he could have made the changes you needed in the relationship.
Another note is this sort of break down is something I worry about when I get into a relationship and how I can manage my autism with the other person.
