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Saturday morning: when the unexpected stacks up

Vardaguyn

Went to the market this morning like I usually do for fresh produce. Cheese + olives from my favorite stall holder went perfectly - still one of the good things in the week.

Next stop was the cheese shop. Walked in expecting bread, and the sales person said “no bread until further notice”. Apparently the baker left the bakery this morning. Staff only found out when they opened up. So that was unexpected #1.

Walked over to the fish shop and mentioned what happened at the cheese shop. Fishmonger’s reaction was... colorful Joy Word clearly travels fast in Topsham when bread’s involved. Unexpected #2.

Then on the walk home, bumped into an ex-colleague from 2019. She said hello. I didn’t have anything to say to her, so I kept walking. She was one of the reasons I left my job back then, and “no hello back” felt like the right boundary for me. Unexpected #3.

It was a bit of a let down, not gonna lie. Three unexpected things before lunch is a lot. But I’m home now, sunshine’s out, and I’m choosing to move on with my life anyway.

Cheese + olives + sunshine = not a total loss. And boundaries held = win.

Anyone else have their Saturday plans derailed by something small turning into a chain reaction? How do you reset when the morning goes sideways?

  • Great that you held a boundary…this is not to be underestimated…it takes courage to stand firm Blush

    I like how you are pulling the positives out of this situation.

    Enjoy the cheese,olives and Sun with face 

  • Good for you - walking away was better than saying something that later you might have regretted. I think you had the higher ground here.

    So the fishmonger gave you a bit of fun, even if the day did not go well!

    Dealing with this: First, look back at what happened. One thing was good - the fishmonger's reaction. Second, put it in context - they have the issue of profit loss; but you can buy those things elswhere or save your money for another day. It was a shame but soon someone will benefit by being offered the baker's job. Next, sit down with a cup of tea and bun [or whatever treats you enjoy], take a breather whilst planning nice stuff for the rest of the day -preferably in writing so you can tick the list as you do those things.