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groups / activities / going places

pinkchocoholic

anyone have problems going out to groups, activities or places in general?

Sometimes I get anxiety going out to places, or get worked up about going somewhere which doesn't help - as a result I either get really overwhelmed and don't enjoy myself as much or end up not going. 

I use my techniques I've got from CBT therapy and even if my parents or just one come with me I still find it hard. 

This has led to me not going to groups / activities that I actually enjoy when I can get there

I'm still recovering from resigning from work and what led to it, and trying to focus on what I like. It's like I'm finding who I am again without work. 

I would love to be able to go to groups, activities and general places on my own, at the moment it seems to much 

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  • I just don't do groups, I don't like them I don't feel comfortable, I can't hear when theres lots of conversations going on. AS much as I like doing things like going to museums and galleries, I'm often not a good person to go with as I dont' want to look at the things that the others do. I often disagree with them too

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I'm not really into museums and galleries, at least at the moment. Maybe you could suggest looking at something that interests you then looking at something that interests the other person? Like compromise 

  • in reply to pinkchocoholic

    Well that does depend on knowing exactly what's being exhibited and if it's a newer exhibition that not always possible. 

    Compromise is a difficult one, it should mean that everybody gives up a little bit of what they want so as everybody gets most of what they want, but so often, people (mostly male people) agree to compromise, but have to do their stuff first and then they refuse to do what I'd like. So it feels like a trap where I'm taken advantage of and often laughed at for believing that they actually meant it.

    It's stuff like this that's made me incredibly jaded, cynical, lacking in trust and disbelieving,

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  • in reply to pinkchocoholic

    Well that does depend on knowing exactly what's being exhibited and if it's a newer exhibition that not always possible. 

    Compromise is a difficult one, it should mean that everybody gives up a little bit of what they want so as everybody gets most of what they want, but so often, people (mostly male people) agree to compromise, but have to do their stuff first and then they refuse to do what I'd like. So it feels like a trap where I'm taken advantage of and often laughed at for believing that they actually meant it.

    It's stuff like this that's made me incredibly jaded, cynical, lacking in trust and disbelieving,

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