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When did l realize

Peacock

Hi Blush  l am new to the group 

I am waiting a diagnose for HDHD .

When l first realized l was a little different in my grandchild who has Autism and awaiting ADHD diagnose. 

I saw the connection and was left speechless.

I never fitting in at school l got overwhelmed very quickly had trouble sitting still, bored , and had trouble with organization. This had left me very anxious and depressed.

Unfortunately back in my days you girls weren't given the help that they needed and we're treated harshly with punishment,so l had always thought that l was just a naughty girl. 

I had to suppress all my mixed up emotions that had just made me feel worse and rejected by society.

I have struggled with everyday life it's very had not to be like others l couldn't work because there wasn't a place for me,so l have spent my whole life reading books that has made me supper smart but l still feel l need to hide away. I am a very intelligent woman and very confident l live with my wonderful husband that's always inspired me to be a better person today and all days. I cope with my children, autistic grandchild, we're are very happy, l just wish l had a job though. 

  • in reply to Zac Mod

    Thank you Blush l apologies for being a little maybe to loud in my first post l am very nervous about postings and don't know how to follow rules l struggle with information. But thank you Blushand it's ok to tell me what l should be doing.

  • in reply to Marianne72

    Hi Marianne thank you Blush for your encouragement l guess for years l have felt pressured from neighbors that don't understand and say it's unfair that l get to stay at home and enjoy the sun while others need to work very had so l get called a lazy woman. 

    But l do wish that l could write but has a read l struggle with understanding writing it's very complex for me .

    But l do enjoy art.

  • in reply to Lotus

    Hi lotus and thank you for sharing this with me it was helpful l am waiting on a diagnose but had done the test and points in the way of autism and ADHD . 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Hi and thank you for the reply and for being bold in sharing your story with me it helps me to understand. I was very nervous posting so thanks .

  • in reply to Lotus
    Lotus said:
    I'm very happy to now be retired.

    Me too! I'm the happiest I've ever been, doing my own thing, staying in bed reading or watching TV late etc. 

  • Hi, welcome to the community! It's common here to be smart or exceptionally smart and still struggle with basic daily life and job. I hope you find here like minded people and enjoy being here.

    I can't say how smart I am, but I often heard that im gifted. I do have a job, but work much below my qualifications. I just accepted that. It seems to be impossible for me to make a better career and better money, but at least I'm not in any miserable situation. Working environment is very challenging,  there are lots of situations that feel like a labyrinth and you are the only one having to figure out the way. Everyone else goes on "auto-pilot" and this makes you vulnerable to all sorts of Mobbing. Definitely not good nor pleasant. 

    Now the world progressed a lot. I often wonder, who I would be today if I was diagnosed and most importantly supported when I was growing up. But the only thing I had to do was comply and be like others. Nobody ever bothered understanding why I'm different. 

  • Hi and welcome to the community. I'm a woman in my mid sixties, married, and I enjoy reading and playing video games. I worked most of my adult life, but struggled many times in the workplace and I'm very happy to now be retired.

    I hope you enjoy chatting with us.

  • Just wanted to say welcome and hope you can enjoy posting here! 

    I'm glad that despite all the difficulties you've faced in life, you've still managed to get to a good point in life with a lovely family. The world of work can be very hard for autistic folk, especially when we don't always know ourselves! I hope you can use your new understanding of yourself to maybe find something that suits you at some point!

  • Hi Peacock and welcome! You've made a success of your life, even without a job. If you're happy, which you seem to be, why want more? At work, it's not easy to negotiate relationships and undercurrents can undermine the most favourable career. Ask yourself why you want a job, what extra would it bring to your life happiness? What are the downsides? True, it's great to be appreciated by others, feel you are a part of life - but there are more ways of doing this than a conventional job. With your expert subjects, could you write a book, set up a blog, take part in campaigns. You don't need to worry about finding a publisher, because it is easy to do this online - for example Kindle. Few authors make a lot of money or gain fame and these things bring their own problems. The joy is in using subject[s] you love; bringing them to fruition in a self-published work, blog, specialist interest group or part of a campaign. Just a few thoughts - meanwhile, enjoy this community, where I'm sure you'll find like-minded others. SmileSparkling heart  [edited by moderator]

  • Welcome to the NAS Community, Peacock.

    There is always something to learn about ourselves, even if that should be later in life, putting past experiences into perspective - I know that certainly was the case for myself.

    I have a feeling that our fantastic community will be be more than happy to share their experiences with you, although in the meantime, I would like to share some resources with you that might be of use.

    Related conditions - a guide for all audiences

    “What was good about my diagnosis was I could say to Seth: ‘It means you’re like Daddy.’”


    I hope that this might be helpful - take care.


    Thanks - Mod Zac.