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Music

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I constantly have music playing somewhere and over the years I come to realise how much it ties me to certain aspects of my life.

We all have that song that we link to a relationship or an event that brings added meaning.

Iris by the Goo goo dolls reminds me of my relationship with my wife in a moment when things were less complex. This song has lived rent free in my head since 1998. It also in more recent years become a song about how I feel about myself And I don't want the world to see me / 'Cause I don't think that they'd understand / When everything's made to be broken / I just want you to know who I am

Creep by radiohead or Growing sideways by Noah Kahn also fit that bill.

American pie (Don Mclean and I don't want to miss a thing (Areosmith) we songs I used to sing to the kids when they were tiny.

There are songs that just creep up on my and I end up in tears, they might not have any great meaning, they just invoke a wave of emotions. Some are pretty obvious, something like Fight song by Rachel Platten which is so positive but has undertones of loss.

The other day I was listening to a random playlist and Lose yourself by Eminem came on and it just triggered something, it was the same where a video cropped up on Facebook, it was a Ministry of sound concert at the royal Albert hall, they played Toccata & Fugue in D Minor (Bach) that merge in Insomnia (Faithless), it just gave me goosebumps and then I just became overwhelmed.

I'd love to know that you all have the same relationship with music and would be willing to share your experiences.

Or am I just weird?

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  • No I think you're normal, I'm the weird one, I rarely listen to music and I've always had a bit of a problematic relationship with it, apart from the radio it was never really part of childhood, we had a record player but few records and my Dad playing Wagner was a sign that bad bad stuff was on the horrizon. I never really knew what music I liked and just went along with what others liked to fit in.

    The other thing is that I like to listen to music alone, I want to be surrounded by it for it to be the only thing I sense, this is something very difficult to achieve as people see music playing as a sign of wanting to be social and it isn't for me, then they start wanting to play something different which just upsets me, causing me to withdraw and retreat into myself.

    I hate background music, if I were a musician I'd feel insulted that what I'd created was just being used in such a way.

    I also like very little music from my past, it brings up to many bad memories, or I never liked it to begin with and run away almost screaming inside at the horrible racket going on around me.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    bad bad stuff

    I had abusive parents too, so I'm very sorry to read this and that it spoiled your enjoyment of music. I changed both names -first and surnames - and recently gave myself a new birthday date and that really helps. 

  • in reply to Marianne72

    Thank you for your concern Marianne and Prof, but it really is OK and I was able to work through a lot in therapy and I had the chance to talk to my Dad about it all before he died and he was the one who started the conversations.

    I think the thing thats stopped me enjoying music more than anything else is losing my singing voice, I never knew what I had until it was nearly gone and that really saddens me, I loved singing along with some really complex vocals, now I end up making a nasty nasal noise, so I often prefer to listen to instrumental music.

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  • in reply to Marianne72

    Thank you for your concern Marianne and Prof, but it really is OK and I was able to work through a lot in therapy and I had the chance to talk to my Dad about it all before he died and he was the one who started the conversations.

    I think the thing thats stopped me enjoying music more than anything else is losing my singing voice, I never knew what I had until it was nearly gone and that really saddens me, I loved singing along with some really complex vocals, now I end up making a nasty nasal noise, so I often prefer to listen to instrumental music.

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