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Anyone get embarrassed over tipping eg hairdressers, waiters, taxi drivers?

Marianne72

There are many reasons I dislike the habit of tipping:

1. these people earn salaries and not everyone in all jobs expects to be tipped - I can't understand how this came about

2. I often don't have enough and feel mean if I give a small tip, not knowing how much is appropriate anyway

3. I find it embarrassing - a bit demeaning on both sides

4. the only person I give a tip last year was the postman, and last Christmas I left a note that as I'm retired it would be the last

What do you think? What is the history of tipping? Should it be banned? Is there a way of getting around the embarrassment?

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  • I think tipping was started among the aristocracy when staying at each others houses and "borrowing" a maid to help you dress and do your hair, or a valet and tipping the chauffeur for taking you places. These might have all been things on top of the normal duties of these staff, but have hung around.

    I'm a hairdresser and I hate tips, they're embaressing to give and recieve, they're also an excuse for poor pay, many salons pay the minimun wage and say you should make it up to a good wage from tips and if you don't get enough tips it proves that you're not good at your work.

    I give my hairdresser a box of eggs as a tip, which she loves as eggs are one of her favourite foods, it's a compromise I've reached.

    It's hard when so many people pay by card and so tips to staff have to go through the books and are taxed. In restaurants everyone who wasn't a waiter kicked off that they did most of the work, but were never acknowleged, now most restaurants keep tips in a kitty and share them out to all staff.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I think tipping was started among the aristocrac

    That makes sense. 

    TheCatWoman said:
    I give my hairdresser a box of eggs as a tip

    I would rather do this than give out money. Money has that horrible tang of forelock touching, bowing and curtseying. It is a Victorian concept for sure. It is interesting that you also found it embarrassing as a professional.

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