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Do you revert to childishness when someone annoys you?

Marianne72

This is the first time I've confessed, so I'm hoping to read your own ways of dealing with excruciating behaviour! You might remember my problems with a new neighbour. One of her 'naughties' was siting planters on my property then complaining when I moved them. After a few days of provocation, I threw her largest planter on her lawn. Next day, I received a police visit (she'd complained  without revealing her provocation). There were other incidents I won't bore you with. Now, when she bangs my wall in the early hours [not often since her police warning about provoking me!], I do an 'air gun' mime - pointing my fingers like a gun towards her wall with appropriate sound effects, but not so loud she'll hear. I vary this with a Gatling gun 'attack' with appropriate sound effects. Occasionally I do air tomahawks or a bit of mooning [and I have a large 'moon']. It relieves stress and makes me smile, but would surprise ex-colleagues with whom I was always formal.

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  • I think what you're doing their with the finger guns is stimming. That's not childish.

    Anyway, when someone starts to annoy me, I tend to bottle up my emotions and keep it all in, that is until I end up exploding in an ill advised rage as I storm out shaking and feeling like the worst person on the Earth

  • in reply to Jamesmac

    Oh, I never thought of it as stimming, so thank you for pointing that out! It is pretty automatic now. Yes, I used to get in rages then end up depressed. So, it's probably better to externalise it, even make a joke of it. 

    Jamesmac said:
    feeling like the worst person on the Earth

    Never think that. You recognise your behaviour, whilst nasty people do not step back and look at what they do. And yours is not hurting people.

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  • in reply to Jamesmac

    Oh, I never thought of it as stimming, so thank you for pointing that out! It is pretty automatic now. Yes, I used to get in rages then end up depressed. So, it's probably better to externalise it, even make a joke of it. 

    Jamesmac said:
    feeling like the worst person on the Earth

    Never think that. You recognise your behaviour, whilst nasty people do not step back and look at what they do. And yours is not hurting people.

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