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cintrodinara

Hi all. I don’t know whether I’m over thinking this or if it’s something I need to address but I would be grateful for your opinions.

I don’t have any friends and I don’t work, I spend all my time at home with my elderly parents who I am very close to. I function pretty well but I noticed when my parents are ill and when they aren’t around I struggle to function and have terrible anxiety. Of an evening I watch stuff with my dad, mostly films, before Christmas we were watching Murder She Wrote. I find I struggle to settle on what I’m watching and my OCD makes me constantly go to the other room to check on my mum.

I only go out if my mum and dad are going out, otherwise I stay in because of my anxiety. With them my anxiety outside is ok but without them I struggle and can't bring myself to go out unless it's in the garden.

I’m starting to think I am too attached and need to work on doing a bit more stuff independently and spending a bit more time on my own. My dad had a heart scare last year and it really affected me and I began to see that I would struggle without him or my mum so I really need to try and address this.

Please share your thoughts on this and thanks in advance.

  • Hello  ! 

    It’s lovely that you enjoy spending time in the garden — I adore gardens too! What do you usually like doing there? Do you ever feed the birds and watch them, or maybe plan what to plant in spring during the winter? Are there any botanical gardens near you? Maybe you could go with your parents first and see how you like it. Could your parents maybe help you start volunteering together and slowly ease into a community that makes you feel good?

  • I've just looked at your profile and wondered if you could join a choir as you love singing?

    It might be quite a gentle way to ease yourself into getting out of the house more.