What's with the 'Rating' and downvote options?

I am struggling to see anything positive coming from having the ability to rate peoples posts from 1 to 5 stars. Do the developers/forum owners realise we are a pool of people who tend to struggle regulating our emotions and likely have strong RSD? Of all places to be able to downvote or poorly rate someone's comment - geez, you'll have folk off worrying what they done wrong, feeling unfairly treated or ruminating for days over a low score. I suspect I am not alone here, but as a software engineer myself, this has to be one of the worst features I've ever seen on such a site. I've seen people post with such emotion and detail, struggling to find a voice and then seeing a 1 star rating on it and it really bothers me. I hate to think what the other person is then thinking after seeing this. 

If any product owner/manager reads these or there is a feedback section, you should strongly consider removing this option and instead simply have upvotes with the point being, the most upvoted content gets shown first (... Reddit ... cough, cough ...)

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  • my mother. She loves conflict

    Mine was like that too. She got in hysterics when anything went wrong, over-compensating for her sense of failure. My brother and I never got praise or feedback. After she died, I found a suitcase under her bed filled with my school reports and exam results. I finally got over the anger about this in my late 60's, when I stopped over-exerting myself to 'win' and being angry when I experienced failure. After reading Alain de Botton's books, I feeler calmer and not hung up on 'success' or 'approval'. Have a look at his works - I hope they might help you!

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