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What are your quirks & strenghts?

JB33

This is really aimed at finding out a little more about everyone and having some shared experiences. Im curious to see how similar (or different) we all are on this surface level. I'll refer to quirks as capturing things others may find annoying, too (my wife would have a long list). Dont be shy in shouting about your strengths as sometimes it's all too easy to focus on the negatives. I'll go first:

Quirks

  1. can be very articulate and monotone with my words (only when super stressed). It's a giant flag that I need to wind down or destress. 
  2. very quick to get irritated and need to escape the house if its too busy or chaotic and already at burnout stage (mess, kids crying, TV too loud, in-laws showing up uninvited) 
  3. can be a bit blunt at times and say 'can you just get to the point!' 
  4. will often appear as though I have switched off - my mind just wanders at times (thanks, ADHD) while being spoken to, so better make it interesting :D 
  5. finger drum at times, making music everywhere I go :D
  6. everything has to be neat / tidy in the house, especially my study area/spare room. Not quite clinical, but nearly. My wife is the opposite (yep, this can clash). 

Things I view as strengths

  1. Very entrepreneurial - started a software company, profitable. Always thinking of new ideas and ways to improve what I see as gaps in the tech and mental health space.
  2. Extremely empathic and understanding and can easily tell when someone needs help. I can listen for a long time and reassure (although can drain me if not careful).
  3. Despite having C-PTSD from childhood and now AuDHD, I am very proud of who I have become; holding a professional job as a lead engineer, overcoming obstacles and achieving financial freedom at age 38. It hasn't come without struggle though; deep depressive episodes, sustained burnout and some loss of trust in people along the way (seeing there are some real nasty people out there).
  4. I remember phone numbers, number plates, dates and faces very well.  
  5. I love piano and classical music, can compose music and hear melodies in my head. Music has a special place for me, it's calming, grounding and enter hyper focus easily. 
  6. Have an ability to read the room and pickup peoples intentions without them saying much at all (if anything). I already gauge if someone likes me or not. 
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  • Quirks

    1. I don't do emotions like most normal people. Mostly I think them. I do have them, sometimes delayed, often buried, but very strong when they get through, and largely fleeting.
    2. Hyper independence.
    3. My house is a tip, but I know where almost everything is. I have to tidy it.l up. I tend to hoard things and I must throw more things away.
    4. I live on my own.
    5. I like things that are elegant, well made, and time consuming to have created.

    Strengths

    1. Systems level thinking. People, animals, equipment, everything. I never realised till the last few months. I internally model everything, as long as I am not overloaded, when I can become over sensitive and deadlock. I have tried to figure out how AI "thinks", what patterns it is using, and I can detect when it is changing modes. I can't stop it, I analyse everything and notice small details. Very sensitive to tone in writing and behaviour (can mostly learnt to ignore it).
    2. Growing orchids, plus just about anything I fancy. My prize is a metasequoia I grew from seed. Growing stuff from seed is hugely satisfying.
    3. Communication protocols. ASN.1 definitions always seemed elegant to me. I used to attend ETSI and 3GPP meetings. I remember looking at TCPIP and thinking it was trivial and being amazed you could have a job related to it. Not much call for it anymore and I do other stuff now. 
    4. A strange memory. I remember lots of details about odd things. 
    5. I can analyse myself. I watch myself and how I think all the time and can remember stuff in good detail.
    6. I tend to notice small details about everything.
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  • Quirks

    1. I don't do emotions like most normal people. Mostly I think them. I do have them, sometimes delayed, often buried, but very strong when they get through, and largely fleeting.
    2. Hyper independence.
    3. My house is a tip, but I know where almost everything is. I have to tidy it.l up. I tend to hoard things and I must throw more things away.
    4. I live on my own.
    5. I like things that are elegant, well made, and time consuming to have created.

    Strengths

    1. Systems level thinking. People, animals, equipment, everything. I never realised till the last few months. I internally model everything, as long as I am not overloaded, when I can become over sensitive and deadlock. I have tried to figure out how AI "thinks", what patterns it is using, and I can detect when it is changing modes. I can't stop it, I analyse everything and notice small details. Very sensitive to tone in writing and behaviour (can mostly learnt to ignore it).
    2. Growing orchids, plus just about anything I fancy. My prize is a metasequoia I grew from seed. Growing stuff from seed is hugely satisfying.
    3. Communication protocols. ASN.1 definitions always seemed elegant to me. I used to attend ETSI and 3GPP meetings. I remember looking at TCPIP and thinking it was trivial and being amazed you could have a job related to it. Not much call for it anymore and I do other stuff now. 
    4. A strange memory. I remember lots of details about odd things. 
    5. I can analyse myself. I watch myself and how I think all the time and can remember stuff in good detail.
    6. I tend to notice small details about everything.
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