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C

I feel really lost at the moment. I’m 29 next February and my life isn’t where I thought it would be. My brothers and sisters have all moved out and have jobs and their own families. These are all things I intended to happen for me but my life isn’t anything like that.
Thanks to the autism and anxiety I have no friends and I don’t work either and due to mental health problems in 2020 my sight is now poor and I’m physically disabled making things a lot harder than they were.

Every day is the same more less. I stay inside. I hardly see anybody and I spend my time doing the things I enjoy like writing, listening to music, watching stuff and playing with dolls...

I enjoy myself, I’m happy, but I feel like I’m just existing, not living. I’m not depressed. I left those times behind me in 2020 but I do feel lost and not sure on where to go from here.

Next month I’ll be donating Christmas presents to the children’s hospital nearby me. It’s become a bit of a tradition, something I enjoy and it’s something I always do since 2022. So I have that to look forward to. But after that into the New Year I’m not sure what to do other than my usual hobbies.

What do you do?

Do you work?

Study?

Just curious to know. Blush

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  • Good morning from America, C!

    Honestly? It sounds like you’re doing pretty well, even if you feel like you are “just existing”! It’s nice to have time for doing the things you love doing. And hearing that you’re not as depressed as you were is refreshing to hear. And the Christmas presents tradition? That’s fantastic.

    C said:
    What do you do?

    I also have Autism and general anxiety, along with ADHD and depression, but I’m lucky to be able to work regardless. I think medication helps a lot. I work full time as an employment specialist, helping people with disabilities find employment. I used to be a music professor for a while, but there was a plethora of problems with me doing that job including burnout, low pay, and imposter syndrome.

    If I were to have any advice for you, it would be to see if there is any way you can volunteer a few hours a week. It sounds like you want to be a part of your community, so that might be a way to give you something to look forward to just like the Christmas presents tradition. I’ve heard of people volunteering in animal shelters cleaning cat cages, maybe something slow pace like that could still work with your physical disabilities?

    It’s great to hear from you!

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  • Good morning from America, C!

    Honestly? It sounds like you’re doing pretty well, even if you feel like you are “just existing”! It’s nice to have time for doing the things you love doing. And hearing that you’re not as depressed as you were is refreshing to hear. And the Christmas presents tradition? That’s fantastic.

    C said:
    What do you do?

    I also have Autism and general anxiety, along with ADHD and depression, but I’m lucky to be able to work regardless. I think medication helps a lot. I work full time as an employment specialist, helping people with disabilities find employment. I used to be a music professor for a while, but there was a plethora of problems with me doing that job including burnout, low pay, and imposter syndrome.

    If I were to have any advice for you, it would be to see if there is any way you can volunteer a few hours a week. It sounds like you want to be a part of your community, so that might be a way to give you something to look forward to just like the Christmas presents tradition. I’ve heard of people volunteering in animal shelters cleaning cat cages, maybe something slow pace like that could still work with your physical disabilities?

    It’s great to hear from you!

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    Hi  

    Thank you, that’s so nice of you to say. Things are a lot better for me now and up until recently I hadn’t been thinking about all this. It’s probably me over thinking things, the norm for me unfortunately!
    The Christmas presents tradition is one of my fave things to do during the festive season now.

    What’s Christmas like in America? Do you get snow? Sadly here in the UK we rarely get snow where I am and never at Christmas. I see it in the Christmas movies I watch and it always looks so festive and fun over. Always a white Christmas! New York is always looks extra special at Christmas time. One day I’d like to visit the US but I don’t know if that will happen or not.

    Wow! Well done that sounds amazing. It takes a really special and kind person to work and help people like that. It must be a very rewarding job to do too. I’m glad you’re no longer in a job that causes you burnout and so many problems. You should be happy in your work and be enjoying what you’re doing, so it sounds like it ticks all the boxes for you.

    Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it!
    I’ve thought about doing volunteer work before. I volunteered once before, in my library and that was something I enjoyed doing, sadly the library closed when I was 19 but I love animals as well so doing some volunteer work again might be something good for me to do.

    I’ll have a look after Christmas and see what’s about! Thanks again Slight smile

    It’s great to hear from you too!