Here's a "heavy" point to discuss. "Misunderstandings are a primary source of trauma in autism."

Thanks for the response and discussion good people

So, there seems to be a general response to the post in agreement with the statement that misunderstandings are a primary source of trauma in autism.

It has proved to be a "heavy" topic and for full disclosure it comes about because, yep you've probably guessed it - me too!

The "double empathy problem" of Dr Damian Milton The double empathy problem perhaps provides a framework for explaining it.

From more than a couple of thousand years ago Plato kind-off describes a similar thing of one side of the problem (i.e. autistics) "seeing the light" of the double empathy explanation however stops short of offering a solution to it.  Allegory of the cave - Wikipedia

We've probably all felt broken by this experience.  Maybe some of us have been able to do a similar trick for ourselves and others to the Japanese art of Netsuke where broken ceramics are beautifully mended and the mends make the item even more treasured.  Maybe we all sense that the "fault" lines are still present tho...

So, I wonder if it's alright if I gentle nudge discussion to skills and strategies to head off damaging misunderstandings off and help heal the trauma in such circumstances?

I am tempted to do the neurotypical thing and say "asking for a friend".  Hehe in truth I'm asking because I would like more help in this direction myself and maybe there are other autistic friends out there in similar circumstances...

Thoughts on this as well good people?

Thanks for the response and discussion good people

So, there seems to be a general response to the post in agreement with the statement that misunderstandings are a primary source of trauma in autism.

It has proved to be a "heavy" topic and for full disclosure it comes about because, yep you've probably guessed it - me too!

The "double empathy problem" of Dr Damian Milton The double empathy problem perhaps provides a framework for explaining it.

From more than a couple of thousand years ago Plato kind-off describes a similar thing of one side of the problem (i.e. autistics) "seeing the light" of the double empathy explanation however stops short of offering a solution to it.  Allegory of the cave - Wikipedia

We've probably all felt broken by this experience.  Maybe some of us have been able to do a similar trick for ourselves and others to the Japanese art of Netsuke where broken ceramics are beautifully mended and the mends make the item even more treasured.  Maybe we all sense that the "fault" lines are still present tho...

So, I wonder if it's alright if I gentle nudge discussion to skills and strategies to head off damaging misunderstandings off and help heal the trauma in such circumstances?

I am tempted to do the neurotypical thing and say "asking for a friend".  Hehe in truth I'm asking because I would like more help in this direction myself and maybe there are other autistic friends out there in similar circumstances...

Thoughts on this as well good people?