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College was a mistake

FrozenHeart

All my grades are currently ranged between 10% and 56% and I’d need at least a 70% to pass the class I think? If I don’t pass my classes then I’ll have to pay $8000 which I don’t have.

Every assignment is online readings and online essays. It takes me hours to do one and so I’m way behind and then the teachers talk to me, then I feel like I’m in trouble so am scared to go to class (which would get me in more trouble)

So I’m not allowing myself to do anything fun because I should be doing homework and if I’m doing anything besides that then I’m bad basically?

Just a whole lot of stuff that I don’t know how to explain

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  • I know what you mean.

    You need to structure your time and stick to it. Easy to say and impossible to do, I know, but the only real way.

    You stay in all weekend to do work, but don't do any, then feel bad, then feel even worse if you do go out, etc. So you don't get anything done and don't enjoy yourself either, you don't relax and just get more stressed, which makes it even harder to do any work. Till the last second then the pressure forces you to do something, but it's not always very good.

    So you have to change you mindset. Allow yourself some fun and don't feel guilty. But then have some discipline to do some work. Try to do a little and often, rather than big chunks. If you're monotropic and on a roll, then just go with it, but remember to sleep.

    It's all in the mind. Try not to panic. Just break it into bite size pieces and start biting.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I do a lot better doing it all at once vs a little at a time, but that requires me being “in the zone” so I guess I could try the other way. It just might end up a bit incoherent, better than turning in nothing

  • in reply to FrozenHeart

    The problem is waiting to be in the zone means you don't start. If you start, with just the idea to do a little bit so it doesn't seem so hard or insurmountable, just 30 mins, you'll often find you do more. At the end leave a couple of sentences for what to do next so when you come back you can get into it without thinking too much.

    Even if you do a little bit, you can then reward yourself and not feel guilty.

    I don't guarantee this will work, but it is worth trying. I can't really do it, but it is the way to make things less stressful.

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  • in reply to FrozenHeart

    The problem is waiting to be in the zone means you don't start. If you start, with just the idea to do a little bit so it doesn't seem so hard or insurmountable, just 30 mins, you'll often find you do more. At the end leave a couple of sentences for what to do next so when you come back you can get into it without thinking too much.

    Even if you do a little bit, you can then reward yourself and not feel guilty.

    I don't guarantee this will work, but it is worth trying. I can't really do it, but it is the way to make things less stressful.

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