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Irritating neighbours

Sporadic Sparkly

Do you have neighbours who annoy the heck out of you?

Back in the summer, I received an unexpected visit from my council housing officer and one of her colleagues. The reason being that a complaint had been made to the council about the state of my garden. Furthermore, the complainant had also contacted the MP for my area, which had resulted in the MP putting pressure on the council to get their tenant (me) to sort out their neglected and overgrown eyesore of a garden.

My son had been with me when this visit took place. Although the housing officer could not tell us who the complainant was, my son and I were both 99.9% sure that the complainant was a particular neighbour of ours who has a reputation for being a bit of a bully.

Fortunately for me, my local council know that I can struggle physically. It was made clear that if I was perfectly able-bodied, the pressure being applied by the MP would have resulted in the council pursuing the legal route and taking me to court. That said, if I was perfectly able-bodied, it's unlikely that I would have allowed my garden to end up becoming an eyesore.

It wasn't the complaint as such that irked me, but the fact that the complainant had not considered the option of sharing their concerns about my garden with me first. I'm not an unreasonable person, or at least I don't think I am. 

I have what I consider to be a good rapport with the rest of my neighbours, but it seems like this one particular neighbour seems to take great delight in trying to antagonise and intimidate anyone and everyone to get what he wants. As my son said, if the state of my garden was causing the neighbour distress, there was nothing stopping them from going down the neighbourly route and offering to help me get it sorted.

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  • When living down south I was like surrounded by bullies from school and always had stone thrown at the windows and got a lot of nasty names called at us and even naughty words written on my patents cars. Moved up north and the people living next to us were the previous owners of the house. The other side were two new drs, I admit I took a dislike to them due to my negative experiences with drs but one of them was really good with my mum when she really broken her arm badly. But omg the ones opposite us were so horrible! I mean they took a dislike to us because of our ages, they also thought I was wanting to see their little bratty girls but they want me away because I was too ugly! I always seem to make them cry, i wanted nothing to do with them and then they got a huff because I didn’t show any interest! Another thing that would annoy me and even upset me was that they ended up getting super bright porch lights which they would leave on to keep us all awake and when it came to the curtains they would always leave their downstairs living room curtains open and if I was in my bedroom which overlooked them they would shoo me off so they could have their privacy and do naughty things but instead of closing their living room curtains they would rush up to their bratty kids bedroom and close those curtains instead. Would also be shouted nasty things if I was seen outside. I mean it may be water off a ducks back to most but to me it wasn’t and I knew it was intentional. Thankfully I am away from those bullies now and have my own flat. The lady downstairs has been very caring and has even noticed that I’m not very settled still but we tend to have a chat when we see each other. Otherwise I don’t really see anyone in my block at all. But now I have a bratty kid who lives opposite me and always cries when I am seen by him and doesn’t like the fact I’m now in the flat. I don’t know what it is about me that makes people cry but I have feelings. I can’t help I look like Hellen gravely or Medusa or whoever. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Perhaps you are more attractive than them and it makes them feel sad Thinking. 

  • in reply to Marianne72

    My mum always says that to me but I feel that’s she just saying that because she’s my mum. I secretly think deep down I’m better looking than them (and I’m like the most modest person) but after all the gaslighting and bullying from my last job and from my dad when on holiday I’ve really been at a low. Like even more paranoid and questioning myself and my opinions etc. it’s a hard one to explain

  • in reply to Bananatropics26

    Ahh ok I will give it a watch later. Thank you, I’m definitely not the brains of Britain but I do feel I have good knowledge with emotions. I mean ok it’s good to get fit and active but it should be for your own benefits not others. Say I hate going the gym but I really enjoy doing my ring fit because it’s a game but I get exercise out of it but I do it for fun and I benefit in return both physically and emotionally. 

    I remember flicking through tv channels one day and there was the show called take me out which was a dating show and when the man came on and introduced himself he said he was a fit guy and the majority of the women turned their lights off as they didn’t want to go out with him. But I didn’t even think he was good looking and again too muscular. Any men I have had soft spots for are not too muscular, just normal I guess. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Elfilis also do yourself a favour when you get time watch this whole scene. 

    youtu.be/uX-fDW5r-0A

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  • in reply to Bananatropics26

    Ahh ok I will give it a watch later. Thank you, I’m definitely not the brains of Britain but I do feel I have good knowledge with emotions. I mean ok it’s good to get fit and active but it should be for your own benefits not others. Say I hate going the gym but I really enjoy doing my ring fit because it’s a game but I get exercise out of it but I do it for fun and I benefit in return both physically and emotionally. 

    I remember flicking through tv channels one day and there was the show called take me out which was a dating show and when the man came on and introduced himself he said he was a fit guy and the majority of the women turned their lights off as they didn’t want to go out with him. But I didn’t even think he was good looking and again too muscular. Any men I have had soft spots for are not too muscular, just normal I guess.