Irritating neighbours

Yes, a couple of my social housing neighbours can be a nightmare. I took my new neighbour shopping then lent her camping stuff because she wanted to stay overnight before she moved in. When she did, she started ranting at me because I would not take her shopping and speak to her every day. I explained via the Landlord about my autism, thinking she would understand - she told me she has an autistic son [not living with her]. A few weeks later she banged on my back windows and when I went out started shouting, calling me a witch. I ran in and fell over, but got up and pushed her off the property, telling her to get indoors. Then the police called because she claimed I'd 'attacked' her when she came to help me when I fell! I got a police warning but later, when I proved she had been needling me 2 years with noise, she was given a warning for hate crime. Very stressful, though she got her just dessert. The landlord's put up a 6' fence now, so I have peace 99% of the time.

Gosh! Your new neighbour really does sound like a nightmare neighbour. I wonder what made her think that you had a responsibility to take her shopping. It's one thing if she had asked if you would mind taking her shopping, but to assume and shout at you for not doing so is awful. The other incidents you described are even worse. I hope you feel safer since the landlord put up the fence.

Yes I do!  I also put in a Ring doorbell also a camera at the back. My landlord kindly didn't charge the full price and I paid £200 contribution (the tenancy states, tenants pay for repairs to fences, if they don't belong to the landlord.

It was over-expectation - she told PCSO I'd 'gone cold' after helping her, ie not 'speaking'. Her idea of conversation is a monologue and ranting about previous neighbours  [I expect they had a street party when she left .] She was constantly trying it on' but I didn't realize. I lent camping items and my sofa cushions, then she said,' you said you were going to lend me your dressing gown too,' in challenging tone. From things she said, she had money but gambled it away. She began goading me - leaving planters outside my house, shouting when I moved them back. After a week I threw one back on her lawn - she called the police, claiming I'd damaged her property!

When I gave them the history [emails to the landlord, photos, their many visits about noise] the police officer was very angry she had wasted his time. Over 2 years I endured banging on internal walls, more and more sets of wind chimes, shouting and ringing the chimes by hand when I went in my garden also a noisy fountain sited near my bedroom windows. Then the incident I wrote about.

The officer explained he had to give me a written caution ['laying hands on her' i.e. pushing her off my property] - because I'd emailed the police with the full story arc. Nevertheless, this is the first police complaint in my 72 years. But in a way it was worth it -  she now has a warning for hate crime [landlord evidence of my sound sensitivity and refusal to stop provoking me.] and has to be compliant or risk prison.

Big lesson everyone, if you have a bad neighbour- keep correspondence, photos, install cheap spy camera[s]. Write to your landlord - then there's a record. The police want evidence but then they do act. The Ring doorbell is very good. After all, we are good at detailed record keeping!

Yes I do!  I also put in a Ring doorbell also a camera at the back. My landlord kindly didn't charge the full price and I paid £200 contribution (the tenancy states, tenants pay for repairs to fences, if they don't belong to the landlord.

It was over-expectation - she told PCSO I'd 'gone cold' after helping her, ie not 'speaking'. Her idea of conversation is a monologue and ranting about previous neighbours  [I expect they had a street party when she left .] She was constantly trying it on' but I didn't realize. I lent camping items and my sofa cushions, then she said,' you said you were going to lend me your dressing gown too,' in challenging tone. From things she said, she had money but gambled it away. She began goading me - leaving planters outside my house, shouting when I moved them back. After a week I threw one back on her lawn - she called the police, claiming I'd damaged her property!

When I gave them the history [emails to the landlord, photos, their many visits about noise] the police officer was very angry she had wasted his time. Over 2 years I endured banging on internal walls, more and more sets of wind chimes, shouting and ringing the chimes by hand when I went in my garden also a noisy fountain sited near my bedroom windows. Then the incident I wrote about.

The officer explained he had to give me a written caution ['laying hands on her' i.e. pushing her off my property] - because I'd emailed the police with the full story arc. Nevertheless, this is the first police complaint in my 72 years. But in a way it was worth it -  she now has a warning for hate crime [landlord evidence of my sound sensitivity and refusal to stop provoking me.] and has to be compliant or risk prison.

Big lesson everyone, if you have a bad neighbour- keep correspondence, photos, install cheap spy camera[s]. Write to your landlord - then there's a record. The police want evidence but then they do act. The Ring doorbell is very good. After all, we are good at detailed record keeping!

I found these online - a device that blocks your letterbox. Handy if you go away [remember to let the post office know] and have unpleasant neighbours. The wedge on mine is because I ordered the type for patio doors by mistake. Easy to fit, only 2 screws.