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Where Will We End Up!

Miffo

Hi everybody, Matthew here.

Two weeks ago my dad collapsed due to stress, when he collapsed we called an ambulance because we thought he might have had a heart attack. Luckily it wasn't anything serious but at the time I was starting to prepare that he might not be ok and when that happened I started wondering what would happen to me.

I always thought if anything happened to my mum and dad I'd have a nervous breakdown or something similar to that. Basically what I want to know is, what do you think will happen to you once your parents are gone?

Thanks to anyone who replies.

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

  • Hi crystal12,

    Thanks for the reply. I have discussed this with my parents before. If anything happens to them then I will get taken in by my brothers, but just thinking of them gone is enough to make me cry. No matter who takes me in when their lives end, so will mine, I know it will! Undecided

    Kind regards,

    Matthew.

    Thank you.

    Regards,

    Matthew.

  • Hi - parents also worry a lot about what will happen when they become ill and/or die.  They need to make arrangements so that a crisis doesn't develop, personally and/or financially for their autistic child.  However difficult, these issues need discussing within the family + sometimes with a solicitor + social servicves.

  • Hope,

    I agree with you Hope. When you get older there is more chance that you may get an illness. A member of my family getting ill is one of my greatest fears and like you if one of my parents dies I do not think I would be able to cope at all!

    The only thing I can think of is your username:

    I hope I am able to get a cure for Autism before any of my family die, if not, then I am not looking forward to the future at all!!!

    Kindest regards,

    Matthew.

  • I have often thought about this myself, and I think I won't be able to cope at all. I can only imagine the outcome - having the nervous breakdown you mention, and feeling completely sick and broken. I hope my parents will live for many years to come, but my Dad is approaching 70 years old - he is an old Dad because he had me when he was 40, and I am now 26 years old. Therefore old age could hit him within the next 10 years or so, and I am worried in case he gets ill. My Mum is a lot younger than my Dad, so I am not so worried about her at the moment, but I do fear for the future. I have no friends, and other than my support workers, my parents are the only real social support that I have. Plus, I can't deal with change, and death of your loved ones is the biggest change there is.