Child at school

Hello I am a one:one for a boy a in year two. Here is a little background he has Autism Spectrum Disorder, Moderate Intellectual Disability, demand avoidance and low level language and understanding. 

He shows no reaction when he lashes out at other children even if that child crys. He will hit, push, stab others with pencils. 

we think he does it when others are too close to him or in his way other times it seems random. 

There's so many choices to use when he hurts someone: a mistake book which goes through each step of what happened, how do they feel, what i can do next time, I have a social story about hitting, I have a sheet of paper with pictures on it with how our friends feel, being kind to our friends, I have a script I go through about having kind hands, getting child to show me there kind hands, me labeling other child's emotions, getting child to say sorry. I don't know which one to use for the best or use a mix? 

Please help thank you. 

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  • Dear Dolly134,

    Well done for reaching out and seeking support; it sounds like a really difficult situation for you and your son and I know it can be really hard to know what the best thing to do is in these situations. It is also incredible that you have thought about or have tried so many strategies to help your son manage these difficult feelings and behaviours, you are doing a great job in supporting your son. 

    It can be really difficult to identify what the best strategy is, it can be a lot of trial and error till you find one that helps your son the most. It could be worth having a chat with our Parent to Parent Emotional Support Helpline - I know this resource has been a really positive one for a lot of families who use it. 

    I have also linked our guidance on Distressed behaviour and Anger management that may be worth taking a look at.

    If you can it may be worth reaching out to your GP, health or social care and the school to see what support they could put in place to best support you and your son.

    Take care of yourself and thank you for reaching out.

    Best wishes,

    Olivia Mod

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  • Dear Dolly134,

    Well done for reaching out and seeking support; it sounds like a really difficult situation for you and your son and I know it can be really hard to know what the best thing to do is in these situations. It is also incredible that you have thought about or have tried so many strategies to help your son manage these difficult feelings and behaviours, you are doing a great job in supporting your son. 

    It can be really difficult to identify what the best strategy is, it can be a lot of trial and error till you find one that helps your son the most. It could be worth having a chat with our Parent to Parent Emotional Support Helpline - I know this resource has been a really positive one for a lot of families who use it. 

    I have also linked our guidance on Distressed behaviour and Anger management that may be worth taking a look at.

    If you can it may be worth reaching out to your GP, health or social care and the school to see what support they could put in place to best support you and your son.

    Take care of yourself and thank you for reaching out.

    Best wishes,

    Olivia Mod

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