"Edit" option missing

I make mistakes too, which you sometimes point out. My reasons for this are not being able to see the tiny words easily on my screen and ADHD.  

I can edit my posts up to the point of a reply being posted. I suspect the system is designed that way so that people can’t change the meaning of their original post because that could make the replies seem nonsensical. 

Right now, I can edit the comment I posted below to which profdanger has already replied, so I don't think that is what makes "Edit" disappear. It is probably what Bunny says, it's on a timer.

As long as I know I'm not going mad, I suppose I can live with it the way it is.

Right now, I can edit the comment I posted below to which profdanger has already replied, so I don't think that is what makes "Edit" disappear. It is probably what Bunny says, it's on a timer.

As long as I know I'm not going mad, I suppose I can live with it the way it is.

Damojo said:

Maybe not for you. I wish you the best

I appreciate your apology and sentiment. Thank you. 

You can decide what is best for you, but I consider the matter over. I wouldn’t like you to feel unwanted here, because apart from this thing, I have valued your posts. 

ArchaeC said:

I accept your apology

Thank you.

ArchaeC said:

there is no need to take further extreme measures

Maybe not for you. I wish you the best.

Damojo said:

"... any consideration ...". There! Fixed that for ya

Of what you write, I can make of it only what I read. “Fixed for ya” is addressing me because you replied to me. 

I accept your apology so there is no need to take further extreme measures. 

I found the other post on the Help Us Keep Our Community Spam-Free thread from four weeks ago.

You commented:

I wish the spammers had more consideration and I hope they don’t ruin this site. 

I replied quoting your words "more consideration" and I added:

"... any consideration ...". There! Fixed that for ya.

And thank you to the mods for cleaning up after them.

My intention was not to correct your grammar—there was no error to correct. I was agreeing with your sentiment and implying that I would go even further and characterise the spammers as having no consideration. I got the whole thing wrong, didn't I?

Again, I am sorry that I upset you. If I ever do so again, please censure me immediately, so that you do not have to wait four weeks for an apology. If you would prefer, I could avoid replying to any of your posts, or I could withdraw from this forum, so that it remains a safe space for you.

I didn’t know I had RSD, but maybe you have diagnosed it.

I have just seen this after posting my previous reply, so yes, you have correctly identified one of your posts.

I am not intending to gaslight you. When I saw you post I thought that this was the opportune moment to try and give a hint of its fuller meaning which was “I don’t want you to correct my mistakes and grammatical errors because I find it demeaning and hurtful”.

This has been on my mind since you last made a comment about my grammar in a non-direct jokey way, yet I found it hurtful. The last comment was in reply to my post about dogs that jump up, in your Room 101 post. I would need to trawl through your replies to find a previous post, but one comes to mind in which you corrected or commented my wording and it went something like this, “… There, that’s better”. It felt demeaning and it was not better for me. I am happy to search for it if you can’t find it. I didn’t want to say these things so plainly here but I don’t know how to get round it as you feel you have been gaslit. 

I have been told through the years that I am over sensitive. Perhaps I am, as are many autistic women. I hope that we can both learn from this and move on without it affecting relationships. 

ArchaeC said:

As a fellow AuDHDer, you may understand how I might feel about that.

Oh, does this relate to the "dirty paws" comments over on the Room 101 thread? I'm very sorry that my post offended you. I was trying to be funny; clearly I wasn't.

You know how we are supposed to take things literally? Well, I thought I could take your sentence literally in two different ways and I thought that one way was humorous on two levels: images of people with dirty paws, and an autistic person (me) obviously misinterpreting something. Then my ADHD brain thought, "Hey! You should share that with everyone. They'll think it's hilarious. What could possibly go wrong?!"

I hope I didn't trigger your RSD, but I'm guessing I probably did. My reply was never intended to highlight the ambiguity in your sentence at your expense. I apologise. I will be more careful in future.

Yes, do. In addition to the reasons given for mistakes, predictive text sometimes inserts strange things into my sentences. As a fellow AuDHDer, you may understand how I might feel about that.

OK, I give up. Yes, I did notice—immediately. Then I asked myself, "Do I?" Then I reckoned I don't. Then I felt gaslit. A correction on my part would be paradoxical, which was very unfair of you, but also very funny. But now others might think I been some sort of pedantic stalker. Isn't that defamation? Unless the gaslighting wasn't gaslighting and I really do have no memory of my actions. And all that while I'm trying to write a three-sentence post (the one above) without making a mistake. I'm a little overwhelmed, now. I need a ... brake.

Must. Resist. ...

I'm not falling for it.

Since you have relied, I have just made a small edit to my post to test it out.