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Meeting more Autistic people my age.

HighToryPsychic

Hello. I am 32. I recently came to understand I am autistic and I am still trying to figure it out. 

I don't have many friends, just one who is also autistic. But I have a therapist and a personal trainer who are autistic which has been a massive help. However I have to pay to see them and can't form a friendship with them outside of that. I also want to know more people my age too which is important for me. I have very little social experience and struggling getting to know new people. I also don't like groups of people, so I like one on one interactions. 

I do seem to find it much easier to connect with other autistic people too. I just want to make a proper friend who I feel I can just ring anytime and chat or whatever. I have never had that sort of friendship since I left school. 

So is there any resources or groups anyone knows which supports people in my situation. It would have been much easier in my early 20's I think to find stuff.  

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  • Hi, just wanted to reply to your message and say you're not alone!  

    I've been waiting for my autism diagnosis for two years and due to me not fitting into society, struggling on the social level ect... I kinda became an introverted recluse.

    I'm 34 and I think it's alot harder to make and maintain relationships at our age, especially facing the struggles that often come with Autism. 

    I have hope joining this new community myself and I like you I also thrive in 1 on 1 friendships rather than group settings so I'm around if you ever want to talk. 

    I'm hoping myself that maybe I'll find at least one good and lasting friend in this communityCherry blossom

  • in reply to Daisy

    I’m Not very good In big groups. I’ve explained to some people I feel socially awkward. I don’t small talk. I feel better one on one as well

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  • in reply to PurpleElectric

    Wow, yeah that's it. I wasn't quiet when I was a child though, I have ADHD too, so that was more when I was a child and you don't mask or hide yourself as much. I have a great imagination and I am reparenting myself. So I let this imaginary 2-3 year old me run around and be all ADHD and burn off energy. While my Autistic brain watches him do stuff and laughs. Meanwhile I am just walking to the shops and nobody would ever know. 

  • in reply to PurpleElectric

    Me, 100% me. Grinning I do the whole sensory over load staring into space thing. Ha. I like listening to other people talk and I enjoy being in my own space and hearing other people, but I don't like being part of it. I have a great therapist who I have been working with for 9 years. She just says I need to be kinder to myself and stop putting pressure on myself. So I have sat in my flat for 4 days in darkness, not talked with anyone. I feel great and very refreshed now. 

  • in reply to Daisy

    I never really thought the social awkwardness would be autistic related. I’ve been quiet and reserved and very few friends. felt out of place in most places. I’m glad I can come to a place where we’re all unique and have similar concerns. When I feel comfortable with someone  I do come out of my shell. I see myself as unique and complex, but also misunderstood

  • in reply to PurpleElectric

    I can relate... arghhh nothing worse than small talk but if you give me a real topic that I'm passionate about I have much to say! Hopefully this community will help us find like-minded people.