What little things do you do that make life just that little bit easier for you?
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What little things do you do that make life just that little bit easier for you?
One hack per post.
Post as often as you like.
A few years ago, I told my wife that people do not respond well when I first met them and almost seem fearful of me. Even to the point where I found people would take the long way round to avoid me, but awkwardly staring at me as they passed. This had been the case most of my teenage and adult life, it made no sense to me.
She simply said "have you tried smiling at them, you never smile at people".
I gave it a lot of thought because she's usually right about these things.
First I looked up actors with the most infectious/charming smiles, all the lists pointed me too people like Brad Pitt, George Clooney and some others. I watched a lot of movies to try and replicate the smiles, once I'd nailed it, no more problem.
People now respond well to me and I generally find a smile is met with a smile and eye contact and other things I am not comfortable with are not so important. They are looking at my smile which gives me chance to study the body language and micro expressions on there face to work out intention and meaning without them feeling uncomfortable.
All I do is think about something I like, any of my interests and that helps me to smile more naturally. You do have to be careful though because you can end up focusing on your interest in your head and not listening to them. Which ruins the work I have done with the smile
Not saying it will work for everyone just something I have found helps me to navigate people day to day.
A few years ago, I told my wife that people do not respond well when I first met them and almost seem fearful of me. Even to the point where I found people would take the long way round to avoid me, but awkwardly staring at me as they passed. This had been the case most of my teenage and adult life, it made no sense to me.
She simply said "have you tried smiling at them, you never smile at people".
I gave it a lot of thought because she's usually right about these things.
First I looked up actors with the most infectious/charming smiles, all the lists pointed me too people like Brad Pitt, George Clooney and some others. I watched a lot of movies to try and replicate the smiles, once I'd nailed it, no more problem.
People now respond well to me and I generally find a smile is met with a smile and eye contact and other things I am not comfortable with are not so important. They are looking at my smile which gives me chance to study the body language and micro expressions on there face to work out intention and meaning without them feeling uncomfortable.
All I do is think about something I like, any of my interests and that helps me to smile more naturally. You do have to be careful though because you can end up focusing on your interest in your head and not listening to them. Which ruins the work I have done with the smile
Not saying it will work for everyone just something I have found helps me to navigate people day to day.
