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Burnout absences at work

Rosebud

Hi I'm new on here, I wanted to ask about burnout. I work part time and recently been informally warned as my sickness levels specifically mentioned was my burnout absences, I was referred to OH for adjustments but looking into it the most useful would be what the company could do for me but that's upto the employer to do it. And I have no faith in them helping me to be honest. I wanted to know if anyone else has been in this situation and if so how it was resolved, what adjustments help in this situation. I have been at a loss becasue it's not just work that triggers these it's life in general. How can work adjustments prevent burnout. I genuinely don't think my employer understands autism. 

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  • Rosebud said:
    what adjustments help in this situation.

    These will vary from person to person so it would be best if you can think what would reduce your stress at work.

    To be honest these tend to be sticking plasters on the issue - it really takes a whole life approach to reducing the stress / anxiety for it to have a chance of working in the long term.

    I would recommend getting a psychotherapist with experience of helping autists and work through the options with them. They should have the skill to identify your main triggers and help you develop skills around how to reducxe their impact.

    In my experience both in work and speaking with people here, most employers will only offer token adjustments - a better chair, changing the light bulbs above your desk, allowing headphones to be used at times etc.

    What we probably really need is for managers to give explicit and reasonable work orders, for work to be structured and regimented, for our colleagues to treat us with understanding and for people to not drop in without scheduling.

    None of this tends to happen in reality - the odd exceptional manager can offer some bits but typically we are seen as too much effort and are squeezed out until we quit. I wanted to be blunt about this so you do not have unreasonable expectations.

    In essence, take charge and help yourself by getting a gopod therapist and you have  a chanc of living a much better quality of life and work with less hassle.

    Just my opinions of course - feel free to ignore.

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  • Rosebud said:
    what adjustments help in this situation.

    These will vary from person to person so it would be best if you can think what would reduce your stress at work.

    To be honest these tend to be sticking plasters on the issue - it really takes a whole life approach to reducing the stress / anxiety for it to have a chance of working in the long term.

    I would recommend getting a psychotherapist with experience of helping autists and work through the options with them. They should have the skill to identify your main triggers and help you develop skills around how to reducxe their impact.

    In my experience both in work and speaking with people here, most employers will only offer token adjustments - a better chair, changing the light bulbs above your desk, allowing headphones to be used at times etc.

    What we probably really need is for managers to give explicit and reasonable work orders, for work to be structured and regimented, for our colleagues to treat us with understanding and for people to not drop in without scheduling.

    None of this tends to happen in reality - the odd exceptional manager can offer some bits but typically we are seen as too much effort and are squeezed out until we quit. I wanted to be blunt about this so you do not have unreasonable expectations.

    In essence, take charge and help yourself by getting a gopod therapist and you have  a chanc of living a much better quality of life and work with less hassle.

    Just my opinions of course - feel free to ignore.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Hi, thank you for replying. Practically everything stresses me out at work, I have to share an office with three other people, people walk in as they please, if I need help I have to go into my managers office which has three people in it sometimes more. It's a very busy noisy reception area where everyone s offices are. Meetings stress me out but I have an adjustment where I can join via teams but even then if people ask me things on it or something that embareses me is when they say can you hear me and sometimes there's been glitches and I've heard people laughing. Somedays I have more courage than others sometimes I just can't physically do part of my job which requires walking into another department. Thing is burnout affects every part of my life, I can't go out the door, if I need shopping I get it delivered, if I have appointments I cancel them. I just can't be around anyone don't want to talk to anyone. Those interactions. It feels really harsh that I've been informally warned. Yeah I agree with you employers need to do so much more, I know for a fact that my employer just doesn't understand autism he asked the OH clinician if burnout would be reoccurring and the OH clinician told me themselves that tells them they lack understanding. I was originally going to see the same OH clinician not only for my autism but for my back issues, I said no I want to see an autism professional someone who specialises in it not just a general clinician who will also tell me about my back. It's just terrible. What sort of help can a psychotherapist give me? Can I request to see one through my doctor? Do you mind me asking if you have had help this way before and did it help you? Thanks very much I appreciate your reply.