Our 13 year old boy is refusing to have his room decorated ,do we insist or leave
It as it is,it really needs doing but he gets upset when we mention it ,Any advice please.
Thanks Andy
Our 13 year old boy is refusing to have his room decorated ,do we insist or leave
It as it is,it really needs doing but he gets upset when we mention it ,Any advice please.
Thanks Andy
Hi Andy,
My son lives in his bedroom and only leaves to go to College. We too faced similar resistance when I wanted to redecorate the room he shared with his siblings. The way we overcame it in the end was to include him in the changes.
My son doesn't do change. If he does, it's at his pace and with his input. Having some control over his environment retains his sense of safty. And his safety is familiarity.
We gave him the swatches in the colour tones we wanted and he chose. We used tester pots to paint two colours on A4 paper. (he did the painting.) Once dryed, we placed them on the wall next to his bed so he could get used to the colours. We substituted one colour, when he desided he didn't like it and repeated the process above. Eventually, he was at ease enough for us to paint the walls.
Change on his terms, with direction from us. He now has two tone bedroom walls he's happy with. Give it a go, it may work for you.
Regards
Coogybear xx
Hi Andy,
My son lives in his bedroom and only leaves to go to College. We too faced similar resistance when I wanted to redecorate the room he shared with his siblings. The way we overcame it in the end was to include him in the changes.
My son doesn't do change. If he does, it's at his pace and with his input. Having some control over his environment retains his sense of safty. And his safety is familiarity.
We gave him the swatches in the colour tones we wanted and he chose. We used tester pots to paint two colours on A4 paper. (he did the painting.) Once dryed, we placed them on the wall next to his bed so he could get used to the colours. We substituted one colour, when he desided he didn't like it and repeated the process above. Eventually, he was at ease enough for us to paint the walls.
Change on his terms, with direction from us. He now has two tone bedroom walls he's happy with. Give it a go, it may work for you.
Regards
Coogybear xx