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MissB30

Hi, looking for some advice. My daughter is 7, autistic, non verbal, has a PDA profile. Enjoys playing the super simple songs app on her tablet. The concern I have is, there is one game in particular that she plays repeatedly she will pause it on the same part then replay it and this can continue for a long time the reason I’m concerned is when she is doing this, it causes her frustration and she becomes angry but she can’t stop herself from doing it. I’ve tried taking the tablet away for her to have a break but it doesn’t help the situation, I’ve tried checking the game runs ok and it runs fine. Should I just let her go out turkey and delete the app? I know this will really upset her but I don’t really know what else to do? 

  • Hi MissB30. I am an autustic adult, so perhaps what I am going to say will not be what is the best advice for you.

    Have you read any of Luke Beardon's books? I would recommend them.

    Possibly for a non-autistic child, the removal of a app might be what I would recommend. But from what I believe for people like me,  I would not. I think that it would cause meltdowns, shutdowns and incredible distress to you and also to her.

    The next question, is what to do about it. My brother once threw our parent's computer at the wall in his frustration. 

    What about the game causes her frustration? 

    I think what I would recommend is finding what other self-soothing activities she could do to help with her feelings. My stimming activities are very different  now from when I was 7. At 7, I liked: - Rocking - Hand flapping - Playing with my hair. But also - reading - swimming - playing tennis - listening to music.

    I also think it is worth especially getting some support from the Parents and Carers Section on here. I think that the Society also run peer support. I will tag in the Moderators to see if they do.