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Helpimclueless_45

Can anyone please point me in the right direction basically my son is autistic he's 15  although mentally he's about 9/10 and recently we found he had been trying on his older sister's clothing, we have tried to talk to him about it and asked if this is something he wants to do, but he just either tells us no or can we stop talking about it, obviously I don't want to push him as I don't want to push him away but equally I'm worried 

  • in reply to Helpimclueless_45

    As a side note; Thank you for letting him know you support him. I can only imagine how validating that would feel to hear that if I were going through gender dysphoria.

  • in reply to Helpimclueless_45

    Awesome, I’m glad you already did so much! Yeah, I imagine he’s probably pretty embarrassed about the whole situation, so that would make it really hard for him to open up about it. From my point of view, I think you’ve done everything you should do. At this point the best thing might be to wait a while and see if he opens up about it on his own. I agree that if you press too much, it might push him away further.

  • in reply to profdanger

    I've told him that he shouldn't be messing with her things without asking, and we have told him that it's ok to feel however he's feeling and that if he wants to do that then it's okay we're here to support him, I just wish I understood his feelings and he was more expressive 

  • Okay first of all - if you haven’t already - some ground rules should be put down that he cannot mess with his sister’s clothing, as that is violating her personal space. He might not fully understand that what he was doing was invasive.

    Secondly, what your son may be going through could be gender dysphoria: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/identity/autism-and-gender-identity

    Now here’s where things become my personal opinion. If I were in your shoes, I’d probably make it clear to him that it’s okay to try on women’s clothing, just not someone else’s without permission. However, your personal views may differ from that.