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Going to university...

Lyndsay

Hi everyone. 
I was just wondering if anyone could help me with difficulties I'm having regarding university...
So I'm 17, and I'll be leaving home for university next September. My main worry is that I won't be able to cope without my family because I guess I'm quite attached to my mum and dad still, I hardly leave the house and don't really like going out much, therefore I'm in the house with my parents most of my time. I'm aware that this is because of my Aspergers, but I'm just worried about how I will cope. Sometimes I think I will be able to go to university and be able to cope fine, but then reality hits and I realise I will probably be a crying mess before they have even dropped me off. So I'm looking at a university which is about 40 minutes from home, and my sister lives less than 10 minutes away which is perfect, but I just feel like I'll be isolated whenever I'm at the actual university. Of course I'm worried about making friends; it takes me a long time to trust someone fully, and I'm happy with my one close friend that I have now (however she wants to go to a university which is down South so I don't think I'll see her as often as I would like). And I'm just worried about the whole idea in general. I was wondering if university is as bad as I think. Don't get me wrong, I am excited to learn my subject there because I have a lot of interest in it, but it's just everything else that goes with the experience, e.g making friends, just living on my own. Any advice would be really appreciated Smile Thanks

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  • Hi Lyndsay,

    Can I ask, have you checked what provision your Uni offers for ASD student support? 

    My son is undiagnosed, however he has significant traits and he struggled greatly in his foundation year.

    However, after many tearful 3am calls and an assessment instigated and organised by his Uni, he got support. This transformed his life and changed his perception on Uni study.

    Some Uni's are much better at Pastoral care than others, But cannot act on support unless they are aware of your needs.

    To be nervous is natural and for many, change does present concern. My advice would be to take each day at a time. Be prepared that you will have good and bad days, as all of us do.

    For my son the experience overall has been hugely empowering and a his confidence has grown greatly. It seems you've chosen a Uni reasonably close to family, so if on the odd weekend you do want to pop home for a natter it's not undoable. My son is over 400 miles away.

    Embrace studying your favourite subject and enjoy the experience.

    Wish you luck

    Coogybear XX

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  • Hi Lyndsay,

    Can I ask, have you checked what provision your Uni offers for ASD student support? 

    My son is undiagnosed, however he has significant traits and he struggled greatly in his foundation year.

    However, after many tearful 3am calls and an assessment instigated and organised by his Uni, he got support. This transformed his life and changed his perception on Uni study.

    Some Uni's are much better at Pastoral care than others, But cannot act on support unless they are aware of your needs.

    To be nervous is natural and for many, change does present concern. My advice would be to take each day at a time. Be prepared that you will have good and bad days, as all of us do.

    For my son the experience overall has been hugely empowering and a his confidence has grown greatly. It seems you've chosen a Uni reasonably close to family, so if on the odd weekend you do want to pop home for a natter it's not undoable. My son is over 400 miles away.

    Embrace studying your favourite subject and enjoy the experience.

    Wish you luck

    Coogybear XX

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