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Gordon-not-Ramsay

Does anybody get this situation?

You're in a group discussion and you state your opinion on the matter, and people disregard it or dismiss it out of hand. Then, someone else will have their say and they get everyone nodding their  heads in agreement, in spite of the fact they have just aired the same opinion as you did  but worded it differently. You thinking to yourself, "that's exactly what I was saying!"

This has happened so many times, I've felt like I'm speaking an alien language!

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  • Gordon-not-Ramsay said:
    You thinking to yourself, "that's exactly what I was saying!"

    I think this happens as us autists have such low standing in social situations that the group places little value on our contributions, but when someone else thinks about it, regurgitates it in their own words then the group pay attention.

    This is something I have experienced my whole working life (32 years in IT) and have developed a thick skin of letting my manager or colleagues take the glory for having the idea, using the "its for the good of the company" as the justification.

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  • Gordon-not-Ramsay said:
    You thinking to yourself, "that's exactly what I was saying!"

    I think this happens as us autists have such low standing in social situations that the group places little value on our contributions, but when someone else thinks about it, regurgitates it in their own words then the group pay attention.

    This is something I have experienced my whole working life (32 years in IT) and have developed a thick skin of letting my manager or colleagues take the glory for having the idea, using the "its for the good of the company" as the justification.

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