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Empathy and low EQ score

TearsInRain

Has anyone else been upset after being diagnosed as an adult to find that they have a really low empathy test EQ score? I felt ashamed at first, then upset and was even angry at times. Did it affect you in the same way? I'd really like to know thank you.

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  • I wouldn't let test results weigh on you too much, they tend to be slanted. I have alexithymia so my emotions are a bit of a mystery, oddly I pick up on the emotions of others and it can be a bit overwhelming.

    Do you care about others, even if it's in a slightly muted way, if the answer is yes then you don't have a problem.

    I like your handle/screen name, the whole Blade Runner monologue in that scene really strikes a chord.

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  • I wouldn't let test results weigh on you too much, they tend to be slanted. I have alexithymia so my emotions are a bit of a mystery, oddly I pick up on the emotions of others and it can be a bit overwhelming.

    Do you care about others, even if it's in a slightly muted way, if the answer is yes then you don't have a problem.

    I like your handle/screen name, the whole Blade Runner monologue in that scene really strikes a chord.

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  • in reply to Hergé

    That's quite a good illustration of the 3 types of empathy.

    My only criticism is the word "desire". Although I have emotional empathy, I don't have any desire to feel that way, in fact it often causes me distress. And an autistic person may desire to understand and give help and support, when they cannot.

    Sometimes I think that some NT people believe that desiring to do something enables you to actually do it. Maybe that's true for them, maybe it's another difference we have?