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Surviving School holidays

CharliesDad

Hi,

As you know it is the school holidays, that's six weeks of finding something to do for our son. My wife is stuck at home with him, while I go to work. And she is finding it hard to not only find things to do for him and cope with the time with him, he gets agressive, always wants something to eat and if they do go somewhere he could want to leave after 5 mins.

I could use any advice on what I can do to help her, or suggestions for what we can do for him over the holidays.

As I said I'm at work and she is at home, and I feel very bad that I can't do more to help her, we speak via IM and she tells me what he's up to (e.g. destroying his bedroom) and there's nothing I can do. So does anyone have any advice on what I could possibly do.

Thanks

 

Stephen

  • Sounds like a good plan.

    I do think once you link into places you hear of other things..I certainly have.

    It's never easy juggling the different needs of your family but you are doing a good job..wishing you all the best.

    Oatie

  • Hi,

    Thanks for reply, I contacted the Parent to Parent helpline, who were very helpful. I'm now looking for some playschemes/groups that he can go to in the local area. And trying to get him a 'summer holiday' timeline structure that gives him the structure he needs and us the time to enjoy the holiday.

    Stephen

  • Sorry I don't know..best thing would be to ask your most local NAS group what they offer and go along to a playscheme.

    Or alternatively ring the NAS helpline to see what they say.

    I am shattered today too as my son got over tired and stressy..by 3.30 I had a migraine from being asked the same question endlessly.

    Usuallly help within the home is hard fought for if the service even exisits..Homestart do offer help but this usually stops when the child reaches school age (5).

    They would be a good place to ring as they usually network with other agencies and are very helpful.

    I think realistically most that you tend to get offered is 'play and stay' based.

    Oatie

     

  • Hi,

    Thanks for the reply some great ideas there, which I will look into. To be honest we are at our whits end with him, and it's only the second day of the holiday.

    We need to look around for other areas of support as well as the ones you've mentioned.

    Do you know if the NAS do home visits to see what can be done at home to help?

  • Have a look to see if there are any Aiming High strategies in place in your area..funding varies...things to look out for are special needs playgrounds or activities.

    I am finding these a godsend as if my son has a difficult time no one bats an eye lid. I am finding it a real respite because I can relax in these surroundings and not feel judged.

    Getting my son there is tricky but once he's there he's very happily engaged and I have picked up lots of tips from the other parents...getting in with a group of parents in your situation is fab..everyone tries to help each other and they network good schemes and activities.

    Also check the NAS site to see if there is a local NAS group to you as they often have play sessions.

    I know it will seem a big step at first for your partner but I am sure she will find the effort worthwhile. Try asking at your local sure start centre as they usually know everything going on or can sign post you to some specialist worker who can..or the schools parent support worker if you have one.

    Hope this helps...

    Kindest regards

    Oatie