I am very overwhelmed and I need help, is there any help available for autistic people for their day-to-day tasks?
I have only recently been diagnosed, had I known when I was younger that I was autistic, I wouldn't have married and had kids, and wouldn't have tried to force myself to function like a neurotypical.
I think I have reached a point where I have understood that if I want to survive, I need to start delegating.
My house is a mess and it really overwhelms me, to make matters worse, my partner has ADHD so he is extra messy.
I have so much admin to do, I have to register my divorce from my ex husband in the embassy of my country of origin, otherwise I can't register the birth of my second child. Already applying for that divorce took me 8 years, and now it's been 5 years procrastinating the translation and paperwork needed to make it official in my country too. So I cannot marry my current partner for now.
I also have a number of repairs to report in my house, I have to sort out things for my car, I forgot to report my income for a Tax Credits claim I used to have... so much.
I sleep terribly and when I do have enough energy to do something, it all goes in cooking and tidying up for that day. Then I go back to being dysfunctional until my next lucky day.
In an ideal word I would be able to afford a cleaner who would come once or twice a week to clean, tidy up, do laundry, and maybe help with meal prep. And I would have someone who would do my paperwork and admin for me. Then I would also have an extra room, which would be my decompression room where I would go and retreat whenever things are too overwhelming.
But I don't have the money for any of that.
Is there any help out there for this type of thing? Perhaps a charity? Or can I claim PIP based on these difficulties? What can I do?
Please help 