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Special occasions

bristolvr3

Hello everyone.

As of today (Thursday 16th April), there are three days remaining until the Easter bank holiday weekend. On Saturday 19th April, I will be turning 33 years old, so I will be celebrating two special occasions in one weekend.

Although I used to look forward to receiving lots of nice presents and greetings cards in my childhood days, I feel a bit less excited at my age. The older I get, the less exciting my birthdays and Christmases. Almost every special present idea I could think of, I can afford to buy myself on a normal day, although I wouldn't have been able to afford expensive items such as computer game consoles in my younger days.

As for birthday celebration plans, I prefer to celebrate in a low-key fashion, as in no parties, singing, dancing etc., but just me and my family celebrating privately. As an autistic person, I should be looking forward to an exciting future, but in these difficult financial and employment situations, I just don't know what will happen. Therefore, I tend to slightly fear for my future.

Do any of you have similar stories or experiences? Any interesting stories or opinions would be appreciated.

  • I have been fearful my whole life. My fear can be crippling at times and battling with it is a huge undertaking and a daily struggle. In my working life i've seldom been happy and no one understood my condition, least of all me. I've drifted from job to job each one more uncertain and unsettling than the last as I hate change. My fear has been born from some fairly horrific experiences in preceeding years and it's been a difficult one to face the future.

    Recently, I decided that to work for myself was the only option. I have children with ASD and my main focus is their care, but by working for myself i can decide when and if i work, and how many hours i put in.

    It hasn't been easy. Their are many factors to consider. Learning to say no, having to put on a mask when trying to deal with people personally. (Not something I'm very good at. dealing with people i mean, not putting on a mask.) Extending myself, also something i struggle with. Managing my own learning difficulties to try and make a go of it and of course balance of life and finances.

    Having a life beyond care is something i need, but striking a balance can be difficult. I'm fairly sure i'm always going to be fearful for the future, but im trying to turn the tide of despare into something more positive.....

    Happy Birthday I hope all your future birthdays melt your fears away.