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Can you relate

Marli

I am currently dealing with familial drama which is nothing new with many folks, right? Why is it so hard for a parent to steer their adult children into doing what I feel is the right-thing-to-do. examples, please quit smoking as I have lost a parent to cancer, Please save money for a rainy day or sunny one for that matter. Please don’t allow ur children, my grandchildren to use you and treat you disgracefully. All of the issues boils down to me sticking my nose into my daughters affairs and the boiling pot of my i guess “over concern “ boiled over into a big mess of yelling, screaming, disappointment and then of course many many tears on my behalf. I have always tried to shield my adult daughter from heartbreak and at 60yrs old am finally and mercifully trying to now take care of me. I have spent a great amount of time trying to be mom the protector,provider,counselor, friend that I dont know who I am. After a very recent diagnosis with Autism, really? ADHD really for reals?? and PTSD, I may not have enough years left to figure the sum to this incredibly difficult problem. So, I ask anyone, can you relate?  God’s blessings on us all because without Him what would be the case for living at this point, right?

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  • I think many parents with adult children would be able to relate to the sense of frustration one feels at trying to steer one's offspring along a particular route, and them digging their heels in and seeming to not want to co-operate. As a parent, it can sometimes be really difficult to accept that our children are adults, and that we sometimes need to take a step back and let them make what we might perceive to be mistakes.

    As a daughter, I have never welcomed my mother poking her nose into my affairs. Since I was a young child, we have had our fair share of absolutely blazing rows. With my adult son, my policy is to try not to interfere in his life, to be there for him when he needs me, and to try to resist the urge to say, "I told you so!" when things don't go quite the way he had envisioned.

  • in reply to Sparkly-Temporary Account

    Without going to deeply, I have been cast by my children as I “care “ too much but as a pwASD it is difficult to be in the middle. Black and white thinking in which my brain is wired for , does not seem to allow me  any thought for grey thinking. I simply do not understand how to even try. 

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