Other poster's really annoy you? Do you snap back, step away from the pooter or just let the smug b'stards get away with it?
Other poster's really annoy you? Do you snap back, step away from the pooter or just let the smug b'stards get away with it?
Being one of the people who probably complain about the same things over and over again, in my case pooter and general tech problems, I find many answers way over my head, I simply don't know what people are talking about, even getting set back up on here is still ongoing as none of the things I've been told either by other posters or CM's are working.
With other things it can be frustration at assumptions of my stupidity, people will offer really simplistic answers which are already covered in an OP, then it's me in the wrong for having already tried the suggestion to no avail. I think often people don't read the OP properly and just rattle off an answer, personally I find that infuriating.
Often I walk away and just ignore the thread, even if it's one I've started, because people are ignoring the OP, I find that really frustrating, I'd rather have no replies than ones that have little to do with my OP.
Sometimes I do snap back, either because I think the other poster is misguided, or just plain wrong,sometimes it's because I enjoy a good discussion, especially when it's about something that many seem to unquestiongly accept the status quo, I question things, it's what I do and often what I invite others to do. However some people get into a state of high dudgeon about this and try and shut me up, never a good idea as I just get louder and channel every fishwife in my ancestry.
Probably it's best to count to ten, sometimes easily said than done. Last year, on a Sunday, someone running a page wrote to tell me other members had been complaining about my posts, which admittedly were to promote a series of artworks made into cards. Normally, the accepted number of times to do this is once a week. But as no one else had been using the page to make posts, maybe it did look lie rather a lot. As she disaplrovingly said. She said some members were planning to leave the page all because of my egregious spamming.
I freaked out I'm afraid and declared in high dudgeonnI I was leaving, and I hoped her petty litzle in group could all have the peace they craved. A few days later she got her choice last words in, but I reminded her she had set no guidelines, coming on down in full judgement like a ton of bricks.
Some people complain about the same problem over and over and over again.
I found myself smiling wryly when I read that. It can be sooo frustrating when the poster has specifically asked for help, and then when it's offered they will automatically dismiss it and appear to take great delight in listing every possible reason as to why none of the suggestions will work. In such situations, I do find myself feeling sorry for other people who have invested their time and effort trying to help.
That only really happens to me if someone wants to cherry pick something I said and try to pick a fight over it. In which case I'll either ignore it, or say something that will bait a response and then ignore it. Schrodinger's Reply can't hurt you if you don't look in the box.
It depends. I've had people give me constructive criticism about how my OP writings are too long. I have typically thanked the user in question and have then ignored the comment.
Some attacks have been personal. I've had people at other sites tell me that I've made up stories about my life and experiences because nobody with autism could possibly have been a teacher for 32 years as well as having been an expat in 5 different countries over a 17 year period. I have ignored these people as trolls but have also usually left the forum in question.
Some people complain about the same problem over and over and over again. No matter what constructive suggestions are offered, the OP has a reason as to why none of these suggestions will work. Having decided that this person may be using others as enablers for his or her continued complaints, I will ignore the person in question. If too many people in a forum are making similar complaints, I will typically leave the forum because these peope seem to feed off each other.
Sometimes people will disagree with me. That's Macht nichts to me as long as the disagreement isn't phrased in personal terms i.e. "You're stupid because ___".
At another site, one person jumped on me after I responded to a question about what ABA therapy was. I was at the time pursuing certification as a special educaiton teacher and ws in the middle of taking an ABA class. While this most certainly DID NOT qualify me as a therapist, it did provide enough information that I could articulately talk about what ABA therapy was.
I replied to the ABA's question and was then attacked by someone who wanted me to know how bad ABA therapy was. I explained that I was a teacher who was pursuing additional certificaiton and that I was not an ABA therapist. I further explained that I had been only responding to the OP's question. The other person pressed his point of view by continuing to tell me how much harm ABA therapy had done. I finally responded by saying that this person was not my supervising administrator or university professor. He did not have evaluative or grading oversight of me. I didn't have a choice regarding my participation in an ABA class. It was a required course for certification.
I wound up leaving the site in question. To be fair to the critic, he/she did not respond to my last reply.
For me, I guess it depends on what they have said that has annoyed me, and also how well I feel I know them. If I feel compelled to comment, I will try to do so calmly. If I'm incapable of that, then I'll try to keep my thoughts to myself.
It's hard to do, but I would just step away. Maybe go scream in a cushion in frustration.
