how do i control my behaviour and stop hurting those i care about???

As me and my brother have the condition, I understand what you mean.  I'm lucky that I have a job but I have to go find people occasionally in a large office that I've not met before and all I'm given is a picture of their face.  Unless people have had some experience with people on the autism spectrum they aren't going to understand why that's an extremely difficult thing for me to do.  I recognise people by their clothes, walk, hair, and other prominent facial features like squint teeth etc.

The problem is the anger all this frustration causes.  I've had CBT, which helped a lot, but the best thing is not to get wound up because of what you can't do, but focus on what you can do.  Again, there are days where I struggle to contain my frustration.  Like today my sleeping routine was all messed up last night and I'm quite tired today, I'm really not in the mood to face people, which is why I'm on here, and I'm being very blunt and straight to the point (most days I can put on my brave face and attempt to be a bit more tactful in my sentences). 

I spent a lot of my childhood receiving psychiatric help and I think without that I'd have bigger problems now.  The best thing to do is to get the support you need.  It might take some time but talking to your GP and starting that process will help a lot.  I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood but when I was younger I would scream at people, cut myself, be very disruptive in school, get myself chucked out of classrooms, got bullied, steal from shops, break people's sheds, vandalise, etc.  I can proudly say now I have got support and grown out of all that (well, I can still be rather argumentative and disruptive at work) but I didn't know how to release my frustrations with the world and I didn't know why the world seemed different to me than everyone else.  But with CBT and support I'm a much calmer person.

Also, my relationship with my aunt has been getting stronger recently because she started work with special needs children and has been doing courses on the autism spectrum and now she understands why I am the way I am and knows what can wind me up, etc.  It maybe an idea, if you can, to get family and friends involved by showing them information about the condition, or if you have trouble explaining it to them they can get all the information they want from here. 

It's just some ideas, it may help it may not, but all I can say is I understand how you feel.

As me and my brother have the condition, I understand what you mean.  I'm lucky that I have a job but I have to go find people occasionally in a large office that I've not met before and all I'm given is a picture of their face.  Unless people have had some experience with people on the autism spectrum they aren't going to understand why that's an extremely difficult thing for me to do.  I recognise people by their clothes, walk, hair, and other prominent facial features like squint teeth etc.

The problem is the anger all this frustration causes.  I've had CBT, which helped a lot, but the best thing is not to get wound up because of what you can't do, but focus on what you can do.  Again, there are days where I struggle to contain my frustration.  Like today my sleeping routine was all messed up last night and I'm quite tired today, I'm really not in the mood to face people, which is why I'm on here, and I'm being very blunt and straight to the point (most days I can put on my brave face and attempt to be a bit more tactful in my sentences). 

I spent a lot of my childhood receiving psychiatric help and I think without that I'd have bigger problems now.  The best thing to do is to get the support you need.  It might take some time but talking to your GP and starting that process will help a lot.  I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood but when I was younger I would scream at people, cut myself, be very disruptive in school, get myself chucked out of classrooms, got bullied, steal from shops, break people's sheds, vandalise, etc.  I can proudly say now I have got support and grown out of all that (well, I can still be rather argumentative and disruptive at work) but I didn't know how to release my frustrations with the world and I didn't know why the world seemed different to me than everyone else.  But with CBT and support I'm a much calmer person.

Also, my relationship with my aunt has been getting stronger recently because she started work with special needs children and has been doing courses on the autism spectrum and now she understands why I am the way I am and knows what can wind me up, etc.  It maybe an idea, if you can, to get family and friends involved by showing them information about the condition, or if you have trouble explaining it to them they can get all the information they want from here. 

It's just some ideas, it may help it may not, but all I can say is I understand how you feel.