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Look at all that left on your plate when there's kids starving in Africa!

aimosan

I know this is a bit of a weird title, but you've no doubt heard this saying before, even if it's not to you.

This is something I heard growing up.  Being on the autism spectrumI may have taken this a bit too literally.  It was difficult being forced to clear your plate when you either feel uneasy about the food you're eating or just stomach problems in general.  As I was diagnosed in adulthood it was just though I was a picky child.  I once had gastroenteritis after having eaten a ham and coleslaw sandwich with blackcurrant diluting juice, so I associated this meal with sickness.  If someone attempted to feed me it again, and especially if I didn't feel well, I really didn't want to eat it.  One time I felt so uneasy of eating the food I actually crawled out a second floor window onto next doors conservatory roof, where I was dragged back in again forcefully by my then step-father (my mum has now divorced him).  I was about 1 years old when all this happened.

I also started to stop eating completely when widespread famine was reported on TV, so horrified that these things happen in the world and feeling like I was to blame.  The main reason I talk about this is because it can be hard for me still to deal with suffering.  You get told that to be a good human being you must help others, or that you are shallow for having or wanting nice belongings.  I don't to be able to get a happy medium, I'm taking everything literally.

Anyone else have stories they want to share?  Or pointers when it comes to issues of ethics?  

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  • I think this was and probably still is common practise in homes where the parents feel that their children must clear their plates - these same individuals as adults then require re-programming so that they can loose weight and not have to eat everything! My otherhalf said the same as PP and couldnt get his head round why he, here in th UK should eat his meal that he was not enjoying and was feeling full because of someones elses situation somewhere else in the world! 

    decide that you will eat healthy food that you ENJOY and when you are struggling with it, think of it maybe as per fuel - that your body needs to function. And do your best to focus on positive aspects of food - the colours, textures etc - You could also do something, like donate a sum (be that £1 or £100) per month and you will feel a weight lifting slightly, as you are doing something to ease others troubles. 

    Our parents, or any other adult in our lives as children, think they are doing what they think is best for us but sometimes they just mess it up! 

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  • I think this was and probably still is common practise in homes where the parents feel that their children must clear their plates - these same individuals as adults then require re-programming so that they can loose weight and not have to eat everything! My otherhalf said the same as PP and couldnt get his head round why he, here in th UK should eat his meal that he was not enjoying and was feeling full because of someones elses situation somewhere else in the world! 

    decide that you will eat healthy food that you ENJOY and when you are struggling with it, think of it maybe as per fuel - that your body needs to function. And do your best to focus on positive aspects of food - the colours, textures etc - You could also do something, like donate a sum (be that £1 or £100) per month and you will feel a weight lifting slightly, as you are doing something to ease others troubles. 

    Our parents, or any other adult in our lives as children, think they are doing what they think is best for us but sometimes they just mess it up! 

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