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Hi am New, scared and overwhelmed

Oatcakes

Hi

 

I am steeling my self to collect my twin boys from the school bus  . Our current situation is we have an appointment with Cahms next month to discuss one sons behaviour and my partner (his Dad) is ringing to arrange an adult assessment today as we have always suspected HFA type issues and he is currently very depressed and anxious.

DS just screams at me for about 15 mins everytime I collect him from school..it feels relentless and I am not dreading the 'looks' and feelings of being judged. As parents we don't shout or hit..we follow the positive parenting guidelines to the max yet everyday it's the same. 

I feel so sad as my son is clearly unhappy and frustrated and every day feels a battle to try and keep him positive. He is having issues with anger at school too and the teacher is at a loss because she can see he's 'not a bad child and you are doing everything you can as his parents'.

I so want to help him through this but as he is coming to the end of his 1st school year I can see that this is beyond us as a family and we need further advice. He's not going to settle in unless more measures are implemented so cahms it has to be.

I feel so low and useless..I wish I could do it all myself and make it better for him. He seems so confused about what is expected of him and hates 'all the people talking all the time..it really bugs me mummy'.

Ah well better go and get my little chaps..thanks for listening.

J

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  • Hi Oatcakes, I'm new too.

    When I read your first post I was overwhelmed - it could have been me writing it!  My 4 year old son was given a diagosis of High Functioning Autism a few weeks ago.  He has the tantrums, the aggression everything that you said - but he can also be lovely, funny and very clever.

    He is due to start school September, and the Induction day was a nightmare. 30 parents and 29 excited children in a classroom (29 because my poor boy was in a crumpled heap under my coat).

    I am trying to find strategies to help him cope in September, but I am on a long waiting list for CAHMs so haven't had any advice from them yet.

    My 11 yo son is Aspergers.  My husband, after reading the info about ASD and Aspergers now agrees that he himself is on the spectrum - probably Aspergers.  There are not many people who know what it is like to have to deal day to day with an Aspergers partner as well as ASD children - the tension in my house is unbearable at times. He tries hard to help, but its like I have to manage him too.

    I really have to bite my lip sometimes when yeat again my husband doesn't know which child is doing what or has to be collected from a certain place - he syas hew can't take in and process all the info, so now I write lists everyday.

    Anyway - I've just found this forum and it feels like I've won the lottery - other people with the same issues!

     

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  • Hi Oatcakes, I'm new too.

    When I read your first post I was overwhelmed - it could have been me writing it!  My 4 year old son was given a diagosis of High Functioning Autism a few weeks ago.  He has the tantrums, the aggression everything that you said - but he can also be lovely, funny and very clever.

    He is due to start school September, and the Induction day was a nightmare. 30 parents and 29 excited children in a classroom (29 because my poor boy was in a crumpled heap under my coat).

    I am trying to find strategies to help him cope in September, but I am on a long waiting list for CAHMs so haven't had any advice from them yet.

    My 11 yo son is Aspergers.  My husband, after reading the info about ASD and Aspergers now agrees that he himself is on the spectrum - probably Aspergers.  There are not many people who know what it is like to have to deal day to day with an Aspergers partner as well as ASD children - the tension in my house is unbearable at times. He tries hard to help, but its like I have to manage him too.

    I really have to bite my lip sometimes when yeat again my husband doesn't know which child is doing what or has to be collected from a certain place - he syas hew can't take in and process all the info, so now I write lists everyday.

    Anyway - I've just found this forum and it feels like I've won the lottery - other people with the same issues!

     

    .

     

     

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