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Hi am New, scared and overwhelmed

Oatcakes

Hi

 

I am steeling my self to collect my twin boys from the school bus  . Our current situation is we have an appointment with Cahms next month to discuss one sons behaviour and my partner (his Dad) is ringing to arrange an adult assessment today as we have always suspected HFA type issues and he is currently very depressed and anxious.

DS just screams at me for about 15 mins everytime I collect him from school..it feels relentless and I am not dreading the 'looks' and feelings of being judged. As parents we don't shout or hit..we follow the positive parenting guidelines to the max yet everyday it's the same. 

I feel so sad as my son is clearly unhappy and frustrated and every day feels a battle to try and keep him positive. He is having issues with anger at school too and the teacher is at a loss because she can see he's 'not a bad child and you are doing everything you can as his parents'.

I so want to help him through this but as he is coming to the end of his 1st school year I can see that this is beyond us as a family and we need further advice. He's not going to settle in unless more measures are implemented so cahms it has to be.

I feel so low and useless..I wish I could do it all myself and make it better for him. He seems so confused about what is expected of him and hates 'all the people talking all the time..it really bugs me mummy'.

Ah well better go and get my little chaps..thanks for listening.

J

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  • Hi Oatcakes,

    I know just how you feel. My daughter is 11 and has been arriving home angry, fed up, confused for as long as I can remember! There have been days when I've dreaded picking her up because I just don't have a clue what sort of mood she'd be in. However according to her primary school she's the perfect pupil, top achiever, the only comment I've ever had is that she lacks concentration at times (we now know that it's because she can't maintain eye contact which makes her look distracted!) So she'd hold it all in at school then have an absolute meltdown once she got home!!

    After years of pushing, she's just had her initial assessment through Cahms and they've suggested there's a strong possibility of Aspergers, we're waiting further appointments.

    Apparently the school/home thing is not unusual, I really hope you get some great help and advice and that your son can get to grips with school.

    Take care

    Andrea

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  • Hi Oatcakes,

    I know just how you feel. My daughter is 11 and has been arriving home angry, fed up, confused for as long as I can remember! There have been days when I've dreaded picking her up because I just don't have a clue what sort of mood she'd be in. However according to her primary school she's the perfect pupil, top achiever, the only comment I've ever had is that she lacks concentration at times (we now know that it's because she can't maintain eye contact which makes her look distracted!) So she'd hold it all in at school then have an absolute meltdown once she got home!!

    After years of pushing, she's just had her initial assessment through Cahms and they've suggested there's a strong possibility of Aspergers, we're waiting further appointments.

    Apparently the school/home thing is not unusual, I really hope you get some great help and advice and that your son can get to grips with school.

    Take care

    Andrea

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