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Hi am New, scared and overwhelmed

Oatcakes

Hi

 

I am steeling my self to collect my twin boys from the school bus  . Our current situation is we have an appointment with Cahms next month to discuss one sons behaviour and my partner (his Dad) is ringing to arrange an adult assessment today as we have always suspected HFA type issues and he is currently very depressed and anxious.

DS just screams at me for about 15 mins everytime I collect him from school..it feels relentless and I am not dreading the 'looks' and feelings of being judged. As parents we don't shout or hit..we follow the positive parenting guidelines to the max yet everyday it's the same. 

I feel so sad as my son is clearly unhappy and frustrated and every day feels a battle to try and keep him positive. He is having issues with anger at school too and the teacher is at a loss because she can see he's 'not a bad child and you are doing everything you can as his parents'.

I so want to help him through this but as he is coming to the end of his 1st school year I can see that this is beyond us as a family and we need further advice. He's not going to settle in unless more measures are implemented so cahms it has to be.

I feel so low and useless..I wish I could do it all myself and make it better for him. He seems so confused about what is expected of him and hates 'all the people talking all the time..it really bugs me mummy'.

Ah well better go and get my little chaps..thanks for listening.

J

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  • Hello Oakcakes and welcome to the community.

    It sounds like you are facing a number of difficult situations at the moment with both your son and your partner.  Hopefully other community members will be able to support you and provide both practical and emotional support where they have been through similar experiences.

    It sounds like your biggest concern at the moment is with your son and diagnosis and support in school.

    You might find some of the NAS information and services useful:
    Our Education Rights Service might be able to help you in thinking about other ways he can be supported at school to try and avoid the difficulties you are facing after school:

    www.autism.org.uk/educationrights

    Also, you might find it useful to contact our Parent to Parent service which may be able to talk you through some of the specific problems you are experiencing and suggest some ways forward:

    www.autism.org.uk/p2p

    Hopefully these will provide some useful information to you and I’m sure other members will also have ideas they are willing to share.

    Alex - mod

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  • Hello Oakcakes and welcome to the community.

    It sounds like you are facing a number of difficult situations at the moment with both your son and your partner.  Hopefully other community members will be able to support you and provide both practical and emotional support where they have been through similar experiences.

    It sounds like your biggest concern at the moment is with your son and diagnosis and support in school.

    You might find some of the NAS information and services useful:
    Our Education Rights Service might be able to help you in thinking about other ways he can be supported at school to try and avoid the difficulties you are facing after school:

    www.autism.org.uk/educationrights

    Also, you might find it useful to contact our Parent to Parent service which may be able to talk you through some of the specific problems you are experiencing and suggest some ways forward:

    www.autism.org.uk/p2p

    Hopefully these will provide some useful information to you and I’m sure other members will also have ideas they are willing to share.

    Alex - mod

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